Ted
The pilot formerly known as Twin Engine Ted
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But then they call you a hoser.
Can't fault them for being right.
But then they call you a hoser.
When Laurie and I got married I told her she didn't have to take my last name, and warned her that she would be doomed to listen to mispronunciations the rest of her life if she did.
When folks ask how to pronounce your name, do you reply with ''Smith''.??
When folks ask how to pronounce your name, do you reply with ''Smith''.??
I resemble that remark!
It’s strange you speak against sanctimony.That's a false dichotomy. Just because I decided not to follow some Bible-driven version of family planning (aka let the invisible man in the sky "tell me" when to stop impregnating my wife and racking up the dependents count) doesn't mean I'm gonna short the one kid I do have the funds for the proverbial cancer treatment because that would get in the way of my airplane upgrade. Good bad or indifferent, line items affect the ledger, and dependents are no different. If I have more, there's less left over to cover. For multi-child households to get sanctimonious and assert True Scotman fallacies on single-child or no-child households goes beyond the pale for me.
BTW, my kids are one of my greatest joys in this life. I wouldn’t trade that for any career or hobby. Those don’t necessarily conflict but where they do, the kids come first and it’s a privilege.It’s strange you speak against sanctimony.
You attribute a lot to this post that isn’t there. No false dichotomy, no fallacy, and no reference to biblical values. Without an objective standard, his values are just as valid as yours, but you criticized his. Which interestingly enough, assumes the objective standard it appears you want to dismiss.
It’s strange you speak against sanctimony.
You attribute a lot to this post that isn’t there. No false dichotomy, no fallacy, and no reference to biblical values. Without an objective standard, his values are just as valid as yours, but you criticized his. Which interestingly enough, assumes the objective standard it appears you want to dismiss.
I agree most who promote a “full quiver” do so from a religious perspective, so I understand the assumption. It can be annoying.Fair point, my objection could have been stated without reference to religion. That wasnt the point of my objection. What I meant to highlight was the criticism of having one child by multi child households. Turns out the poster I referenced also has one child, so we re good. All I wanted to highlight was that the choice of not having more children in order to afford discretion in other aspects of in life doesn't imply that I would not exercise due diligence in investing on the one I do have. That's where my caution against false dichotomies stem from.
I didn't mean to attribute religious motivations to the poster. I did introduce that topic based on the objections those of multi children households have cast onto my choice to only have one child citing economic reasons. They have done so under a religious banner I don't subscribe to. I apologize for the confusion. To be clear the poster didn't inject that.
J has taken care of so many drug babies, NICU can be a very heart warming and gut wrenching profession.When our son was born he had to spend the first couple days in the NICU due to "an abundance of caution." Next to him was a baby born to a drug addict who had to be given methadone. At first they asked Laurie and me to leave the room when they were talking about the kid's care but once the nurses realized we weren't going to blab or cause problems they didn't ask us to leave, just spoke quietly. Still I picked up enough to figure out what was going on.
I still think about that kid. It was hard for both of us to see.
Pretty much, yes. And we've heard it a thousand times, so it's annoying. Occasionally when it's one of the little old ladies, I'll tell them, "Yes, we did, and we enjoyed it so much we kept doing it."
We also got a lot of "Are you Catholic? No? Oh, Mormon?" Seriously.
BTW, my kids are one of my greatest joys in this life. I wouldn’t trade that for any career or hobby. Those don’t necessarily conflict but where they do, the kids come first and it’s a privilege.
This is exactly how I feel about people asking us when we're going to ever have kids (answer: never), or thinking that the answer to any temporary boredom, burnout, or lack of purpose, however fleeting, is to fill our home with crotchfruits.
Nobody has ever said "If you don't have children, you don't understand" to me. That's because I never inquire about peoples' children in the first place, and am not trying to understand anything about them. They're uninteresting, have been done to death (literally, based on my own observations around the world), and seem to dominate (or suffocate) the lives of those I know who have them.
I'd have asked Mormon before Catholic these days, though. Unless you're brown.
I don't care for Five as a first name. Sorry, try again. And I do not think it is all that common. LOLMy first name is reasonably common, unisex, but can be spelled several different ways.
When I have to give my name to the fast food cashier, I use Tom. It's not my name but it's one syllable and easy for them to punch into the register. You ever have the fast food cashier ask you how to spell your name, like it friggin matters that Chick-fil-A has the spelling correct?
Funny, those of us with kids dont need an itemized list of why we have them.
Those who dont otoh have a litany of reasons ready to go the moment someone prompts them.
Probably because society tends to look at people who don't have kids funny and so they're used to defending it.
I remember when I was single the old folks in the family would ask when I was going to get married. Same thing - what's to say I would even get married? I responded with "When are you going to die?"
Anyone ever ask if you're Amish? I'm young and don't have a wife or kid's yet but hope to have both in the future.We also got a lot of "Are you Catholic? No? Oh, Mormon?" Seriously
Like vegans and the godless they just can't stop until you affirm their choices.
'Oh Auntie, I am just waiting for the right one. When I find her and get married, you will be the first to know!'
I've been mistaken for a lot of things, but Amish isn't one of them.Anyone ever ask if you're Amish? I'm young and don't have a wife or kid's yet but hope to have both in the future.
This is exactly how I feel about people asking us when we're going to ever have kids (answer: never), or thinking that the answer to any temporary boredom, burnout, or lack of purpose, however fleeting, is to fill our home with crotchfruits.
Nobody has ever said "If you don't have children, you don't understand" to me. That's because I never inquire about peoples' children in the first place, and am not trying to understand anything about them. They're uninteresting, have been done to death (literally, based on my own observations around the world), and seem to dominate (or suffocate) the lives of those I know who have them.
I'd have asked Mormon before Catholic these days, though. Unless you're brown.
I don't think I've ever heard that phrase directed at someone who didn't have children as a justification for why they were "wrong" about not wanting to have children. I've always heard it in the context of discussing someone's feelings about children before vs after they had them. Or if they were speaking to someone who was "on the fence" about having children.
Like vegans and the godless they just can't stop until you affirm their choices.
I'm pretty sure my parents would have been happier if I were never born. Probably not just my parents either.Neither of my parents should have been parents.
I'm pretty sure my parents would have been happier if I were never born. Probably not just my parents either.
Your treasure is in your children, and your memories of raising them. Ran across a reference to Proverb 23:5 on another thread on this board.I pretty much sacrificed all my money, time and sanity for my kids until they completed their degrees. They turned out to be great citizens and have awesome memories from their childhoods.
That's why I now have a few spare moments to waste time yakking with fellow sympathizers on hobbyist forums. Still don't have much money, though.
Like vegans and the godless they just can't stop until you affirm their choices.
'Oh Auntie, I am just waiting for the right one. When I find her and get married, you will be the first to know!'
FOMO, has to look that up as I’d never heard of it.It's an interesting subject to me, actually, (probably why I read these things to begin with) but more in the FOMO sense. "Why is everyone else into this thing that I'm not into?" -- my sister just had her first kid a few months ago, so I'm watching the process up close lately, and it's top of mind.
Or what if I just didn't want to get married? For a while I was fairly certain I wouldn't and didn't want to. No different than not having kids.
Point is, it's nobody else's business, and when people keep on asking questions "Why don't you have kids?" "When are you going to have kids?" "When're you going to get married already?" it does get tiring.
Like vegans and the godless they just can't stop until you affirm their choices.
The scenario involved elderly relatives. The answer remains the same whatever the nosey question. If anyone who is not in the elderly relative category , the answer is 'nons o your forking business' with the degree of rudeness adjusted to how close the person is to your boss.
Never had an atheist or a vegan knock on my door and try to convert me. Can't say the same about Jehovah's Witnesses or LDS church missionaries.
I remember when I was single the old folks in the family would ask when I was going to get married. Same thing - what's to say I would even get married? I responded with "When are you going to die?"
Funny thing, most of my older relatives who asked me when I was getting married had already passed away before I got married.
I wanted to get married starting in my late 20s but every American girl I ever met turned nuts or crazy sometime during the romance, or demanded I change to suit their wants. None of that worked for me so I had to marry someone from out of the country. Actually at 50 I had decided that meeting and dating women from all over the world was pretty exciting and I would never get married. Then I met the girl that became my wife and after 9 days we decided that we should get married. Of course it took a year to get her here and get married but after 9 years we are still going strong.!!