Might be a good time to pull up this one:
I don't see any extremes here. Hopefully the OP can filter out the BS and add to his knowledge base.
It doesn't take an experimental or bladder for things to go wrong. It might be something you can't imagine would happen, even after you finally see it. It could just be bad maintenance. I haven't seen anything done wrong on an airplane since flying home from KJAC in an A319 yesterday. 3 of 3 seat belts where installed incorrectly. Minor, but relevant. $h!t happens.
Reducing margins in your own airplane that you know well and trend monitor carefully is one thing. Ferrying a plane you've never seen for someone you don't know is an other. Renting a plane you've flown a bunch is somewhere in between.
Everyone has to figure out their own risk profile. I would have added a few gallons at the destination. However, I enjoy landing off-airport and in small backyard airports. These activities have their own risks and I choose to take them.
However, in this case there is an other interested party. The plane is owned by someone else. They have a right to set standards for the operation of their aircraft. ...even of the message could have been more productively conveyed.
Cheers!