For anyone that wants the cliff-notes version of this massive wall of text, here's GPT's summary. It's accurate.
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@ImAParrot
Gotta be honest, the guy doing your eval sounds like he was having a bad day -- or maybe he's just a dick in general. Most people aren't that fired up.
That said, it sounded like you either
really needed to vent or you have a
really severe case of victim's mentality as
@SkyChaser mentions. I hope it's the former, but the way that you write really makes me think its the latter.
Flying is going to throw a ****load of curveballs at you and I gotta tell you -- winds blowing at 12kts, or having a busy pattern are the smallest of said curveballs. Even at presolo phase 12 kts should be a total non-issue. But it seems like the biggest culprit is that there wasn't a clear division of responsibility between you and him which led to a lot of frustration in the air on both parts. Going into your next flight I'd correct for that and tell them you expect to own the airplane so you know you're responsible for
everything. Problem solved.
As for things he doesn't like but your instructor does? Tell your instructor about how you got *****ed at for doing it and have him resolve it with your check-ride dude. They should be able to figure it out and give you one consistent way of doing things.
Also something to be cognizant of: CFI is just an FAA certification, it's not a teaching degree. And it's certainly not a certificate in patience and understanding. In my experience of flying with maybe 8 CFIs and talking to many more, most CFIs are straight-up bad at their job simply because
they don't want to be in that job. They just don't have a way to pay for hour-building without it, and they need the hours for their next career leap. It's very likely that this eval guy was in that bucket of instructors. In that case, don't take it personally. Just treat your experience with that guy as a purely business transaction -- you're not trying to make friends with this dude. Adopting this mentality will help you a lot in the future because you sound REALLY young and there's going to be PLENTY more interactions in your future where people don't treat you exactly as you'd like to be treated.