Jaybird180
Final Approach
There are two very different things getting mixed up here. A tough, demanding instructor is one thing. A guy who is a jerk is completely separate issue.
Between getting my ratings and various check rides I have probably flown with 10-20 instructors, maybe more. I like tough, demanding instructors. I don't fly with jerks.
From the OP's description of his requests to the instructor to take the controls, I concluded that the instructor was a jerk. From the OP's subsequent post, maybe the correct conclusion is that, at that point in time, the instructor acted like a jerk. If the OP feels, as he says, that the guy is redeemable then that's fine.
But tough and demanding instructors don't have to be and IMO usually are not jerks.
Best description right here.
Additionally, while I agree that minimum PTS is not where anyone wants to be, there is a phenomenon in learning called gradient. You can't turn the fire hose on and just leave it there all the time. While SOME students will perform well, not all will. We as a community need to change our mindset if we expect GA to survive the current down trends in student accession rates. This is not WWII where we need to wash out pilots so we can send them to the Grunts instead.