"... Fighter aircraft are dangerous, far more so than the spam cans we all fly around..."
That is just silly.
Fighter aircraft are NOT dangerous. They are FAR safer than GA aircraft. They have significant backup systems, robust ruggedization, and are designed for survival of both A/C and pilot. Like any other airplane, you have to be trained to fly it.
It is the
FLYING that the fighters do that is more dangerous.
The Military does an intense investigation every time a MIL A/C goes down (I worked as a Safety guy in one of my Squadrons). I can absolutely guarantee you that no investigation has ever determined the aircraft crashed because "it was a dangerous airplane to be flying". Human factors, error, or external factors are the causal factors.
These discussions about the Lancair... Look, if it doesn't carry ice - don't fly into it. If it lands fast - then land fast! If it doesn't stall easily - keep your speed above stall.
So, it doesn't carry ice - apparently that's no secret. Do you fly into ice, then say - as you're falling out of the sky - this airplane sucks..?
If your pilot skills are such that holding narrower flight parameters (Airspeed +/-5 kts on approach, touchdown in the first 300 ft, whatever...) is beyond your scope - then get some more experience before jumping into something finicky to fly.
Some airplanes are just more forgiving than others. Some are more demanding to fly. It is the pilot's duty to know his skill level and fly an airplane w/in those parameters.
It is not the duty of the airplane to fly according the pilot's skill.