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Check out Dubai... The fact is, these countries control us, we are their servants. They live as they want, regardless if what they want is what we think is 'first world' We don't live as we want, we live as a servant nation and send huge amounts of money to them so they can live as they want. Even their 'underclass' controls how our society lives. It was Saudis on 9/11, and their edicts and actions control how we live and have eliminated our free and open society into a paranoid hateful one, more so than before.
To some extent I would agree with you, and I can understand that argument. On the other hand, if you look at the larger picture, beyond the ball and chain of economic servitude that we have allowed ourselves to enter, the question becomes who needs the other more? We have spent a lot of time, money, and effort to ensure that those very folks are in positions of leadership in the ME. They enjoy little regional popular support, and are one State Dept embargo away from being gutted in the streets along with all their family and friends.
The relationship works because 1) we pay so much more than fair value for their crude (and thus influence the entire market to do so), that they are obliged to otherwise play by our rules. 2) We provide them with the only form of protection that is able to sustain their weak monarchies/dictatorships, in the form of direct military intervention, defense technology, and a hand in diplomacy.
So IMHO, we first and foremost create and maintain their very existence. I'm not going to call them puppets, but they wouldn't be where they are if we hadn't placed them there in the first place, either through covert or overt influence. There are of course some examples of where this is not the case, but I'm purely talking to "allied" ME'ern nations.
Secondly, we dangle a very large carrot in front of them, to encourage their economic loyalty, and to discourage them from forming alliances with folks like the Soviet Union or these days, the Russian Federation. Regional warfare, small scale terrorist loyalties, even high crude prices are just a small cost that we absorb to keep the strategic balance in check. We pay an arm and a leg to them in order to ensure that resource scarcity doesn't result in a nuclear holocaust. The rest of it is just placating a bunch of arrogant rich dudes, and ensuring that they do what we want the easy way.