A big problem I see with multi-engine pilots is they will tend to put the drag out too soon when OEI. These planes cannot fly straight and level OEI if you start to put the drag out. Obviously you need to put the gear down at some point, and you probably will need to put the flaps out. However, you also need to use judgement to figure out the best time to do it. I teach my students to come in with a bit of extra energy and keep the drag tucked in until you need it. If you pick your airport correctly, you should have a nice, long runway and a runway overrun shouldn't be a concern and almost certainly is preferable to a crash short. If nothing else, you'll be going much slower and thus less energy.
An example of "land-now-itis" was a 421 in Georgia (or was it Alabama? Pretty sure Georgia) a few years back. Pilot and his family (wife and 5 kids) all died when he lost an engine at night, decided to land RIGHT NOW! from FL200. Picked a 4,000 ft runway and flew a visual approach, put drag out when he normally would. Ended up Vmcing into the ground.
The saddest part was I looked at his location. There was a great airport for an OEI landing in any direction he could've chosen to go, and he could've easily covered the distance doing a normal descent from FL200. He set himself up to fail, and he failed.