Since you asked for a list:
1. Obtain your 3rd class medical (be extremely cautious; research; ask questions here first...this is the dream killer)
2. Buy a log book right away (don't buy anything else yet)
3. Go to a few different FBO's that do training, meet the people, sit in the planes and take two lessons You can log these hours! Find out what plane you like. Try to find a instructor that is not gonna bail. Have them do some steep banked turns so you can feel something a bit more than 1G. I would avoid turbulence on your first flight so go early in the morning or late in the evening. You can ease into the chop/bumps/turbulence later on. Have them demonstrate just how long the plane will fly if the there is no engine power - way longer than you might imagine
...here is your chance to bail with the least amount spent!!! At this point you will have spent around $500 unless you have some crazy medical problems. You'll know if you get airsick in calm conditions and you'll get a sense of how you and the instructor will get along.
4. Budget for the training (the $10K number is a great starting point)
5. Expect to be incredibly frustrated or even think of giving up at some point...DON'T (eg. mine is cross-wind landings!!!)
6. Expect it to take more hours than you think. If you think you'll do it 40, don't be surprised if it takes 65!
7. Keep going, do not stop....even with a bad day try to fly once every 2...3 days if possible. If you can only fly one day a week expect the overall training to take more total lessons.
8. Don't expect to solo after just a couple of flights. The training is purposely layered and you'll get there - maybe 10hrs, maybe 15hrs or 20hrs or who knows but you will get there. I'd say to expect around 16...20hrs.
9. Be prepared for each lesson, get plenty of sleep the night before and make sure you have some energy going into them.
10. It really is a 3 steps forward, 2 steps back.
...I'm almost done and the list above has me about 5..8hrs out from the checkride.
Aside: My wife was already a airline pilot when I decided to take lessons and she pretty much gave me the same list above. The big question then was "How do I pick the instructor". She just said: "Find an old cargo pilot, they've flown everything and flown in everything." So that was my mission and was lucky enough to find one. At 11,000hrs he's not leaving for the majors and can do things with our plane I never thought were possible. He told me a few weeks back when he renewed his CFI and checked with the FAA: "I now have over 100 students and have never had a written or check ride failure....DON'T WRECK IT"
Talk about pressure.
Flying is awesome!!!