I hear you. Private and instrument back in '04 and '06. then took a long break. Working as engineer, got back into flying briefly in 2016, on pause again for marriage and buying a house. Back into it again in 2019, and I needed a BFR. In the lobby I found an ad for a equity club. No website, just email and phone number. It was a sweet deal. Small buy-in, 100/month fixed costs, 25/hr dry in IFR 4 seater. About $70-80 an hour depending on gas price.
All this to say is go rent a plane and fly into all the local airports big and small and look at the message boards. There are ads for partnerships, clubs, planes for sale, etc that you won't find online and the people in the FBO or CFIs know about it or know somebody that does.
I'm now at about 460 hours taking my time working on CFI rating. Slow rolling because of two kids and two jobs. Almost hoping some unicorn flying gig is willing to pay me to fly so I can quit the day job. Don't get me wrong though, I really do want to become a CFI and I enjoy teaching and mentoring because I do that already in my part time job. But I have kids and a mortgage now..