All, I'm overwhelmed by all the great input to my dilemma. Sure is great to have a group like this to bounce aviation issues off and appreciate all the time you have spent considering all the angles on this.
After reviewing all the input this afternoon after work, I clearly wasn't detailed enough in my description. The following is an attempt to answer all the questions posed without spamming the group with an individual reply to each.
Owner and Rental Contract: Let's start with the plane owner and the rental agreement. The agreement very clearly details out his insurance doesn't cover damage caused to the plane and stipulates the need for the renter to have a policy to cover. I got connected to this airplane via a CFI that I used for a bit until our schedules wouldn't jive. I've never met the owner, and at this point feel like he's screwing me by not approaching his insurance company, even to go after mine, but the fact is I agree to the terms of his rental contract, knowing I would have to cover damage if the plane got bent. I assumed I purchased insurance to cover against this. What I didn't realize is the BS out clause AIG has in the policy and clearly had a different understanding of the term "...legally liable."
In the back section of the policy, there is a generic clause nestled in with statements like, can't intentionally cause the damage, use the plane for terrorism, etc. that states the policy doesn't cover "Liability I assume." My read is that when I rent the plane, I assume a certain level of liability. In my mind, this clause negates the whole damn policy and would not even cover legal defence, or owner deductible coverage, but they say they would cover that.
The policy was purchased through AOPA and their service level is terrible. They were the ones that first said Act of God was was not covered and when asked to show me in the policy where that is stated, then said they would have to call me back. This happened on multiple calls until I quite trying. They are in bed with the insurance companies and clearly not the pilot advocates they pretend to be.
Burning bridges - Like I said above, I don't even know the owner of the plane. While I have opinions about this guy and his business tactics that I will keep to myself, I am more concerned about the very small aviation community that I'm just becoming apart of in a small town, and at the end of the day, It's about personal integrity and the commitment I made when renting the plane. Not sure I would trade that for $36k.
I wasn't mislead on the terms of renting, I was just naive to gap in coverage that appears to exist if AIG can legitimately deny coverage based on their determination of "at fault." My beef is that the policy I bought that was advertised and sold as total coverage for renters, but then has a provision that can get them out of just about anything.
What does the Policy Cover - Quite a few comments on what does the policy cover then, and that seems to be a pretty slippery question for AOPA and AIG to answer. Best I can determine, it only covers damaged caused due to my negligence. So no wildlife strikes, damage on the ramp, and damage caused from a mechanical. The scenario gets really blurry if you imagine how you might be covered in an engine out, not due to fuel, that causes an off airport or crash landing. The only description to any of this in my policy is the term "...damage for which you are legally liable." No act of God, mother nature, mechanical, etc.
Attorney Review - So far, I have had two reviews and both think it's insurance bad faith, but neither do insurance work, but rather aviation. Got a referral to a plaintiffs lawyer that I still need to call now that the holidays are over to press the issue with AIG further.
As for lights out in training - I wasn't a fan, but needed those skills on the next night training flight, so see their benefit. Looks like it's 50/50 on those of you who did this in training - right or wrong. Almost wish that would be considered negligent on my part so they would pay, but then what do you bet they say I wasn't PIC. Heck of a web they have.
No doubt I'm missing some of the questions, but hope that colors in a couple more gaps in the description. Thanks again for all the good thoughts.