Fixing that for you:
In short, yes, you should be more selfish, in the sense that you should be concerned with things that are your responsibility, rather than things that are not.
THIS. I wasn't going to respond as I'm just starting my training (4hours of flight) and thought I wouldn't have much to contribute, aviation-wise. However, I'm well-versed in
communication (it has been my job for over 20 years).
@ImAParrot : I will say this...I won't be upset if I fail anything in aviation, while
learning, because that means I am
NOT ready. I am
NOT safe enough to be in an aircraft alone. I welcome the constructive criticism from my CFIs, because it is for my well-being and those I am around in the skies. It is their job to teach me what I do
NOT know and to help me improve on what I do know.
If you feel that your CFI has stank attitude towards you, approach him about it, professionally. Let him know how it affects you, let him respond and then keep it moving.
You are
NOT there for him, but there for
YOU. From what I keep reading, there seems to be a lack of self-evaluation going on. I mean this in the most
respectful way possible. As individuals we MUST self-evaluate and we SHOULD do it often. This should apply to everyone living.
However, aviation is no simple thing
(as you know)-- it's dense and it requires much thought and focus. You legit can not do either if you are so focused on this CFI. Forget about the money you've put into it. Do you want to be a pilot or not?
If you do, then you MUST keep going and figure out why you are obsessing over this CFI. Whatever his issue is...it is HIS alone. Whatever your issue is..it is YOURS alone. You must be able to differentiate the two and sort it out quickly.
I recommend you taking a break (a week or two) and evaluate yourself, and what you want and how you intend to get it done. If the end result brings you back to this school and this CFI, then you must be willing to move forward and achieve the goal. I would recommend you listen to the CFI and his critiques, apply them, and have an open mind doing it.
He has an instructor's license and you have
none. You are paying him to instruct you; gain knowledge based on that alone. The amount of time you spent learning about his background and history, you could've used that time to study and evaluate where you are lacking.
Stop pouring energy into this CFI and rather pour into YOURSELF. You shouldn't let anyone stop you from reaching this goal..including yourself.
I wish you the best!