Doesn't the military have a different mission than flight schools have?
Seems to me that part of their goal is to identify the pilots that won't make good combat pilots so that they can focus their resources on the pilots that will. I don't think the flight schools share that philosophy - but maybe they should.
My neighbor's son is a relatively new F 18 pilot for the Navy. He was top of his class in high school, needed a congressman's recommendation to get into the academy. Finished the academy at or near the top of his class. Got into flight training, passed all the physical requirements, finished his flight training in the top two of that class. Now he flies those magnificent machines. But my point is he went through a lot to get there, is super intelligent and in top physical and mental shape. They absolutely weed out weaker candidates. Personally, I don't think flight schools should work to this level. Safe and competent is the standard they should use.
Roscoe T, you continue to ignore the context of the original post, which either intentionally or unintentionally implied that the OP was flying only once every 4 to 5 weeks due to financial constraints. She is talking about stuff that will not help her attain her goal of becoming private pilot. Someone, who, at least from the context of the OP before it was edited, had limited resources. Telling her to forget that stuff until after was good advice for her situation.
Furthermore, implying that pilots who did not get spin training and aerobatic training before their ppl are lacking in skills is utter BS. A competent pilot candidate will not be afraid of stalls, does not skid through turns or fear the unknown. I actually believe it to be the opposite. There are people doing their training in high performance GA airplanes where it is more difficult for a student to explore edges of the envelope. In the case of the SR22, recovery from a spin is pull the chute immediately. That is in the back of the instructor's head when instructing stalls. Things like managing a $60,000 engine get in the way of doing some maneuvers. Coming over the fence at 80 knots instead of 55 knots give a lot less time learn the flare, resulting in more repetitions required. There are so many unnecessary impediments. If you have the money and want to do it that way, have at it.
I stand by my advice to her. Get your private pilot certificate first, tailwheel or training wheel up front, doesn't really matter. But focus on the PP, after you get the certificate, do an aerobatic training course right away.
We lose too many candidates who get discouraged at the time and investment required to get the pp certificate. Giving them advice to streamline that process is not 'naysaying'.