Never been in a crash, but I did scare the crap out of myself about 20 years ago. Had gotten 5 hours of aerobatics lessons and got signed off for solo rental of the local Decathlon. Was practicing for my first IAC contest. I did a loop and, unknown to me, the folding rear seat back flopped over the rear control stick. When I pulled out of the loop and attempted to push the stick forward to level flight, it would not budge. The stick was locked fully rearward while I was flying 140mph.
Things get hazy in my mind about what happened next, but I'm pretty sure the aircraft looped again. Now, on the list of things that will make you crap your pants as a pilot, doing a loop when you did not INTEND to do a loop is up there. As I came around level for the second time, I cut power to stop the aircraft from going over the top again. The nose rose until I was in a steep climb, then I fed power back in and managed to get the aircraft stable at MCA in about a 45 degree nose up attitude, about 0.1mph above stall speed.
I had a parachute, so I decided to bail out. When I reached to eject the door, I heard a rattling noise in the back and surmised what might have happened. I unbuckled my harness, reached back, and managed to free the control stick. I landed at the closest airport, stopped in the middle of the runway, and got out of the aircraft hyperventilating. I stood by the airplane on the runway for about 30 minutes, trying to collect myself.
At that point, I had 2 choices: fly the aircraft back to home base and call it a day, or finish my practice session. Had I returned the aircraft, I am fairly sure I would never have flown acro again. The fear and anticipation would have built up until I was completely terrified. I chose to finish my practice session. 20 years later I am still flying aerobatics and loving it.
Moral of the story: get back on the horse. Go find a plane and fly the damn thing. Force yourself to face your fears.