I'm with you, Ric, it's about the capability and qualifications.
Anyone who doesn't believe that women can be awesome pilots needs to go watch Patty Wagstaff at one of her airshows. I've met her and seen her twice (even have an autographed poster of hers), and been impressed both times. The last time I saw her, her routine was absolutely incredible, and she was certainly flying circles around just about all of the others at the airshow (who were all men). Certainly the precision with which she executes maneuvers far exceeds any of the male pilots I've observed.
If I'm lucky (and practice a whole lot), one day I might be half as good.