1) Do not vist the AME for any class medical.
2) Only visit the AME for a CONSULTATION!
3) Call the AME office and ask if they will do a consult - you will pay for it, because it's an office visit.
4) If the AME will not do a consult, thank them and find another AME.
5) If the AME will not do a consult, go on the FAA website to find other AMEs in your area until you find an AME that will do a consult.
6) Once you have an AME that will do a consult, be candid about medical and mental issues. Ask for recommendations, actions, paperwork, etc. that you need to do in order to pass any Class medical.
7) Follow the AME advice to the letter.
8) Once you've satisfied all the conditions described by the AME, and have the paperwork, proof, anything else needed then visit the AME for another consultation to make sure you have everything needed.
9) THEN and ONLY THEN visit the AME for whatever class of medical you can pass.
10) If #6, 7 and 8 cannot be satisfied, then you will never get an FAA Class medical. Your only options will be Sport Pilot or weight-shift.
Does this clear up the confusion? Do you understand these steps?