Everyone has their own preferences, but here is a suggestion based on mine. I only order ribeye, absolutely no butter on top, and charred surface. And, I enjoy the classy old school style atmosphere.
Benjamin’s on 41st is my number one favorite place for steak, appetizers, atmosphere, and service. Caesar salad and thick cut bacon are must. The best bartender in the city is behind the bar. I always take a back booth - a classy setting.
Empire Steakhouse, especially the East (though all three locations are consistent and very good) location is close second for the same reason. One advantage here is Empire has items other than steak selections on their menu for someone who is not in the mood for a steak. The grilled octopus is excellent.
Wolfgang’s and Smith & Wollenski are very good, too. But, not as classy as the two mentioned above. Wolfgang’s by The NY Times building has a nice modern setting but not my liking for a steakhouse.
Sparks and Delmonico’s (the oldest restaurant in Manhattan) did not impress me. Not bad, but nothing special…rather boring. Sparks gave me that regular diner feel with cheap tables and furniture covered by a white linen.
Del Frisco’s, Wolfgang’s near The NY Times location, Striphouse, Benjamin Prime, they all messed up the steak (Del Frisco’s and Ben Prime screwed up twice). The most disappointing steak was at the Striphouse - poor meat flavor, and I thought it was steamed meat not grilled.
As far as the steak goes, they all pretty much use good quality meat. It all depends on how well and consistently the grill chefs manage the temperature of the steak.
Again, NO butter (don’t camouflage the flavor or the quality steak, unless it is old).
And, what’s wrong with a “chain”? Texas Roadhouse does a good job for casual dining at better than reasonable price. For what they serve for prices, I never had a bad meal at Panda Express, Burger King, etc.
Enjoy your visit to the city. Bon appetit