Yeah, people all forget to drive around here, too. I can understand it a bit better in Dallas where they don't get this weather often, but here in Pennsylvania? C'mon, people, we get snow like this a bunch of times a year. It's nothing new.
ABS, even in modern cars, is nowhere near perfect. I've yet to find an ABS system that can outperform me with a conventional braking system. I'd rather have it removed from my vehicles, but unfortunately that's not really an option these days. Same goes for traction control - I've normally had to disable it because it annoys me. It also is programmed for certain situations which, if they aren't the same as the situation you're in, leads to less than stellar performance.
That said, both are great for most drivers. The biggest problems people have with ABS and traction control are:
1) They don't understand how the systems work and thus don't understand how to work with them while driving. I can't tell you how many times people have started screaming when the brake pedal starts pushing back at them.
2) They don't realize that the laws of physics still apply, and you still don't have traction just because you have this fancy system in your car. You can lock up your wheels and enter a spin with ABS on snow/ice. My mom did it on the '98 Volvo when we'd had it for 6 months - totaled it.
Same goes for four wheel drive (or, as one person I used to know called it, "Four more ways to get stuck"). 4x4, now that is pretty nifty when used properly.