Try, and try again, with all your might, you can't seem to get over that fact that this isn't the great integration battle of our time. The standard bearer for this battle was not freedom from state-sanctioned violence and denial of voting, but centerpieces and pretty pictures.
The day before Ogberfell, the only thing a homosexual couple could not do in every state was to call themselves married. They could legally designate who had access to their hospital bedside, who made their medical decisions should they be unable, and who got their stuff when they die -- everything that is presumed among married couples.
Oh yeah, and now people who have religious objections to the new leftist othodoxy can be punished (fined, jailed) as heretics. Something you're very proud of, I'm sure.