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Somehow I feel this will be males - female things but I'll start.

If your wife/girlfriend/housemate cleans the house and it has that "clean" smell to it. Thank her for doing it. Otherwise it may not happen again until she feels like it. Argh.
 
saracelica said:
Somehow I feel this will be males - female things but I'll start.

If your wife/girlfriend/housemate cleans the house and it has that "clean" smell to it. Thank her for doing it. Otherwise it may not happen again until she feels like it. Argh.
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Not to be a jerk, or whatever, but it depends on circumstances!


-VanDy
 
saracelica said:
Somehow I feel this will be males - female things but I'll start.

If your wife/girlfriend/housemate cleans the house and it has that "clean" smell to it. Thank her for doing it. Otherwise it may not happen again until she feels like it. Argh.
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Does said wife/girlfriend/housemate have a job outside the home?
 
I do! At least for 2 more months when it gets outsourced to India (which could be part of my angst) I'm really impressed with how good it looks. I mopped the kitchen floor, dusted the air vents, vacuumed. Cleaned the bathtub (Gross!!) and mopped that floor. Oh well I guess I'll just enjoy it myself.
 
For that matter, I don't want my wife doing a bunch of cleaning until she feels like it anyways.
 
Why should he thank you for keeping the place up to your standards. If men liked spotless floors smelling like cleaning product then men would clean floors more often.
 
My mother was a creature of habit. She cleaned the house every Friday like clockwork when I was growing up.
 
I agree thank you's do go along way. However like one said on here if you want it a certain way that's your deal my wife loves It a certain way if I clean something she will do it over to know she did it!
I don't know who pays the rent mortgage but if he does do you thank him monthly for putting a roof over your head?
I'm not trying to bust any balls or boobies or anything just brining up the other side. Talking on a boring weekend.
 
SkyHog said:
Does said wife/girlfriend/housemate have a job outside the home?
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That doesn't matter in the least. Saying "thank you" is a simple common courtesy. Unless you're a pig...male chauvinist or just all around.
 
saracelica said:
Somehow I feel this will be males - female things but I'll start.

If your wife/girlfriend/housemate cleans the house and it has that "clean" smell to it. Thank her for doing it. Otherwise it may not happen again until she feels like it. Argh.
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On behalf of 95% of the straight male population, I can definitely say that you will get fed up with how dirty it is looooooooooooong before we will.
 
This is not directed at the OP, but sometimes expecting or demanding thanks is more about keeping score. 21 years of marriage teaches me that can be a dark road to venture down.
 
timwinters said:
That doesn't matter in the least. Saying "thank you" is a simple common courtesy. Unless you're a pig...male chauvinist or just all around.
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Its not chauvinism, I told my wife that staying home becomes her job. That means I will help out bit ultimately, its her realm and she is responsible its upkeep.

That said, when I do a good job, I don't always get thanked at work either unless I did something spectacular like save 40% on a contract negotiation. So if she happens to do something amazing, like paint the house, then its an obligatory thank you. Anything else is just part of the job.

Not chauvinism, realism and "equality."
 
Did you clean the house because you wanted a clean house? Or was it because you wanted to feel appreciated?
 
Wife and I agreed a long time ago which areas were mine and which were hers. Saved a metric crap ton of issues like this through the years.

Expecting praise is a very good way to destroy a relationship. Conversely, giving praise is just a good idea. YMMV.
 
SkyHog said:
Its not chauvinism, I told my wife that staying home becomes her job. That means I will help out bit ultimately, its her realm and she is responsible its upkeep.

That said, when I do a good job, I don't always get thanked at work either unless I did something spectacular like save 40% on a contract negotiation. So if she happens to do something amazing, like paint the house, then its an obligatory thank you. Anything else is just part of the job.

Not chauvinism, realism and "equality."
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Winner winner chicken dinner
 
saracelica said:
Somehow I feel this will be males - female things but I'll start.

If your wife/girlfriend/housemate cleans the house and it has that "clean" smell to it. Thank her for doing it. Otherwise it may not happen again until she feels like it. Argh.
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Hey Sara, looks like you found your motivation this morning (I went flying). :D

I don't have any advice. I have been divorced for a few years and am responsible for my own mess. I do have a housekeeper that comes by once a week, though and can highly recommend that (it helped greatly when I was married, too).
 
saracelica said:
I do! At least for 2 more months when it gets outsourced to India (which could be part of my angst) I'm really impressed with how good it looks. I mopped the kitchen floor, dusted the air vents, vacuumed. Cleaned the bathtub (Gross!!) and mopped that floor. Oh well I guess I'll just enjoy it myself.
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Do you mind if I ask what you do that is getting outsourced?
 
Accounts Payable.

I told him I was disappointed he didn't say anything. He said "Looks great; thanks for cleaning up" Now it's my job to help it stay this nice that's the hard part :)
 
This is a man's world, this is a man's world.....




Oh, sorry, that was out loud.

I was just singing some James Brown while I do the dishes.:D
 
Yeah, I had a GF like that. We took a trip in MY motorhome, I drove the whole way, paid the gas, and we visited with a few friends. I invited a couple over for dinner and drinks and the GF cooked and cleaned up. I heard about that a few times the next morning. When we got back, I packed all her SHYTE and put it next to MY FRONT DOOR.
 
Everskyward said:
I'd like someone to come clean my house whether they are male or female!
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I'd probably do that, just on some drunken challenge if nothing else. (Um, your bathroom isn't like gnarly is it?)
 
Sac Arrow said:
I'd probably do that, just on some drunken challenge if nothing else. (Um, your bathroom isn't like gnarly is it?)
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Lets put it this way, I think I was playing hooky the day they handed out the housekeeping gene... as well as a lot of other talents I think I was supposed to get. :dunno:
 
Everskyward said:
Lets put it this way, I think I was playing hooky the day they handed out the housekeeping gene... as well as a lot of other talents I think I was supposed to get. :dunno:
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Okay. Well, I know what to expect. I have a Home Depot card so no sweat on that I guess.

Actually, in some weird way it sounds like a fun challenge.
 
Sac Arrow said:
Okay. Well, I know what to expect. I have a Home Depot card so no sweat on that I guess.

Actually, in some weird way it sounds like a fun challenge.
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I can really put you to work in the San Francisco condo. It needs lots of work. :rofl:
 
I am a stay at home dad, I do most of the housework. On the weekends my wife helps out when she can, but it is my day to day responsibility. No, my house is not as clean as I want it to be. It never will be.

Being married is a lot of give and take. Sometimes that is verbal but a lot of times not. Even if you hadn't cleaned a thing he'd still appreciate you.
 
My wife and I used to argue a lot over the house and then she had a bad stroke. 3 years later she is well and I could care less about the house. If it gets to the point it bothers me I clean it. I have someone come in twice a month and she cleans it top to bottom ( she is amazing and old enough to be my grandmother ). I am just really glad to have my wife back and spend my time spoiling her and thanking god for her every day. It has been amazing just how fast what seemed important for so long suddenly does not matter at all. I am lucky to have her and I know it. She is what is most important in my life and always should have been. The house is cleaner now than ever because she wants to let me know she appreciates the new me. Really strange how things work out. She even encourages me to go fly with my friends. Guys just imagine your life if you went to bed one night with your wife and awoke with her screaming and paralyzed on one side of her body. Then the docs almost kill her with medications and tell you to prepare for the worst as she wont live to see morning. I just bet you wont give a damn about the house. It happened to me and it could happen to you. It sure changed my point of view.
 
saracelica said:
Somehow I feel this will be males - female things but I'll start.

If your wife/girlfriend/housemate cleans the house and it has that "clean" smell to it. Thank her for doing it. Otherwise it may not happen again until she feels like it. Argh.
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You're assuming we care?
 
EdFred said:
On behalf of 95% of the straight male population, I can definitely say that you will get fed up with how dirty it is looooooooooooong before we will.
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No kidding, if you want to make the house smell like something that brings us pleasure, try BBQ ribs and fresh baked bread.
 
tip:

Sometimes the man says "thank you" or "I love you" with actions rather than words.

So, women: figure it out...

So, men: figure it out...
 
Cleaned my house this weekend, scrubbed the stove and dishwasher, swept and washed the kitchen floor, scrubbed out the tub, sinks, and toilets, and did the bathroom floors as well. Didn't get nothin' from nobody. Has to be done is all.
 
docmirror said:
Yeah, I had a GF like that. We took a trip in MY motorhome, I drove the whole way, paid the gas, and we visited with a few friends. I invited a couple over for dinner and drinks and the GF cooked and cleaned up. I heard about that a few times the next morning. When we got back, I packed all her SHYTE and put it next to MY FRONT DOOR.
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:yeahthat:


:cheers:

:yesnod:
 
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