Abuse claims are tough duty. From 1987 through 1997 I headed an investment bank and management company that was the capital partner in both skilled-care nursing and child care centers in the DFW and east Texas, and remain an investor in the child care business.
We invested heavily in cameras, technology, training and facilities design in hopes that we could prevent the occurence and eliminate some of the heartburn that accompanies these claims, most of which are false and later recanted by the alleged victim. I'm guessing that we averaged one abuse claim per month (from a total of 6 facilities that accommodated ~900 kids and seniors) all of which later proved to be fabricated. The saddest part is that I'm convinced some of the dementia patients actually believed they had been abused in spite of the recorded proof that they had slept through the night with their door closed.
A memorable example of how these claims can come out of the blue involved a 5-year old at one of the facilities in Garland, on a day when he crapped his britches after lunch but didn't tell anyone. After about an hour, one of the teachers got a good whiff and asked him if he "had an accident." He denied it and refused to cooperate, so the teacher called in the assistant director, who in full view of the camera and with the teacher as a witness, gingerly peeked down the back of his pants and saw the mess.
They together took him to the separate kids' shower (again recorded on tape) stayed outside the door while he showered and cleaned himself and then gave him clean underwear. His dirty underwear was washed out and put in a plastic bag that was then wrapped in a brown sack so he could take it home for proper laundering.
The director intended to speak to his mom about the problem, but he was picked up by his dad who was in a hurry and didn't have time to talk. When the kid saw that he would be riding with his dad, he was afraid he would be punished and discreetly threw the sack and underwear behind the landscape hedge in front of the building.
As he was preparing for bed, his mother saw the loaner underwear and asked why he was wearing them rather than his own. The kid then made up a wild story about being abused by Miss Janet, and how one of the other kids had rescued him and given him some underwear to wear home, etc.
The mom was understandably terrified, and immediately called the director at home and demanded an explanation of what had happened to her child. The director asked the mom if the underwear was a bright plaid pattern with the school name written on the waistband. The mom quickly checked and was relieved to find that the director's description matched the skivvies being worn by the boy, and was then told about the day's events and how the dad had been in a hurry, blah. The kid finally admitted he had tossed his briefs in the bushes, had fabricated the story and the mystery was solved without further action.
Fortunately (for us) the mom had the director's home number and the family had been a customer of the school for several years. If she had called the police or child protective services instead of calling the director, the outcome (and very damaging publicity that can accompany such stories) could have caused us great angst.
As a precautionary measure, we reported the incident to the CPS agent assigned to our facility, to be sure we were on record with them if the event ever surfaced again.
It's hard to believe that the kid is now about 26 years old.
I've been involved in two aviation-related cases with sex since 2002. One involved an FAA inspector who was having an affair (and living with) the office manager of a 135 operation for which he was responsible. She in turn was tapping the till at the business by paying fraudulent credit card charges from the company's bank account. The sexual aspects of the case made the theft issues much more difficult to pursue.
Another more tragic case involved an airplane salesman who was convicted of abusing his teen-age stepdaughter. He was 50-some years old when he was sentenced to 58 years in the slammer. I've been told that he will not be eligible for parole. We all knew he visited numerous porn sites on his work computer, so I've concluded that all men who do that are probably sex offenders as well.
This is certainly a knotty problem. How many parents have had children removed form their homes because some neighbor "suspected" something and called in an anonymous report to police?
The legal system is not really adequate for the problem, which is why loco parentis cannot be abandoned. Parents can't be everywhere, thus must sometimes transfer responsibility to others.
As far as Paterno "knowing" all this -- really? proof?