I had a feeling from your wording of the post, that was the case. And sometimes that's just how it goes.
In regards to the airplane and estate stuff, I suspect Ben was in the same mindset as my dad was at that age. Not going to need to deal with it for a while but the paperwork is sitting on the desk, so to speak. Or in dad's case, literally.
We found his living will questionnaire and notes on his desk. Not filled out yet. This also matched some other hints we found that he probably knew he had a medical issue and hadn't dealt with it.
The good/bad news was that he was very clear about his wishes in person about such things all the time, so we probably wouldn't have needed the document. And nature made all the decisions on that anyway.
And once again, this whole thing makes me want to go get my will done, and once again, I probably won't. Ugh. Not such a huge deal for me, no kids. But y'all that have kids -- do it.
Of course you also have to keep it updated. We all got a chuckle out of Karen's dad's. He wrote it (he was a Probate attorney) in the years when Karen was a high schooler and her brothers are much older than her. There was specific wording that she wasn't allowed to be involved in executor decisions. Haha. Her brothers laughed and said there's no way in her family that the family wouldn't make decisions together. But legally, nope! Hahaha. (And there wasn't a significant estate anyway, plus it's paying for her mom to live in retirement. Nothing really changed.)
The main thing with needing to have a will in place if you have kids is if you want particular people to take care of the kids. Then at a certain point you want the kids to be the executors as they get older and then things change. My mom redid her will when she was pregnant with me. Then she redid it when I was in my late 20s (there's a whole 'nother story) which basically left me handling everything. The will from prior to my birth had my uncle taking care of everything, which is what I would have expected at that time. It also spelled out that my aunt and uncle would've gotten custody of me. Now my uncle really would be incapable of taking care of everything, and I'm an adult. And now we need to update things because we have an atypical arrangement for the kids, seeing as Laurie's parents are gone and my mom is barely capable of taking care of herself, much less our kids.
The first will I did prior to marriage and kids was also important. I had some assets that I very specifically wanted to go to friends of mine rather than family. If I died without a will in place spelling those out, I believe by default my mom would've gotten everything, which wasn't what I wanted for various reasons.
I do wish Ben had put the pen to paper on the airplane going to Cloud Nine. I can't think of anyone I know who'd be even close to able to dealing with that powerplant besides Ted. Granted I don't know that many people that play in that world. ;-) But Ted's background probably leads to the best possible chance that unique airframe and powerplant combo would remain flyable.
I appreciate that, Nate, so do I. And honestly, I really would love the plane for many, many reasons. Practically speaking, it'd be perfect for flying in and out of our property, and fit exactly what we want. Plus having known Ben and really respected what he did would have a lot of personal meaning. I agree - the powerplant and custom work I think makes it tough to sell and to keep running. There's only one man who knew everything about that plane, and he's dead. I could and would keep it flying (I'd have some changes I'd want to make to it, too, which I think Ben would approve of).
The seller and I did, of course, chat about the plane. Suffice it to say the will did not have Cloud Nine as the recipient of the plane, and Ben had never told this gentleman (a long time friend) of that wish. I completely believe him. So I think that means Ben didn't get around to putting the pen to paper. He was a fan of Cloud Nine and what I did, he even bought the fuel for the Navajo when we came through with the 52 cats. I think he figured it would be many years off, not a year or two off. Not the first time something like that has happened, nor will it be the last.
Really the whole thing still has me a bit shocked. There was even a post last year of someone asking where Ben was, and I'd said that he said his plane was going to Cloud Nine, and I hadn't heard from his executor so I expected he was still alive. Ironically, I think it was right around the time he passed.