"they can't be offended if they choose not to be offended"
For the record, that's my quote and it wasn't in response to anything specific to women. If that's how Timmy interpreted it in his head, that's his malfunction.
That is a quote I've regularly used about all of human-kind. Mostly in reference to the perennially offended for OTHERS, like Tim.
Mostly 'cause two things.
A) I figure if an adult is offended by something I've said, they can say so, and I will listen and discuss like an adult, and do.
B) Usually when people say they're offended for someone it's a pretty big reach, like a celebrity or someone who's well used to, or more likely, willfully choosing to be in the spotlight of public opinion.
To say I have little empathy for those who choose willingly to be in the public spotlight and even make a living from it, whining that the public are a bunch of ass-hats, would be an understatement. Huge one.
As far as Tim being offended for another member here, someone not in the public spotlight and supposedly receiving photos or whatever, I'm fine with that. I personally also find it distasteful, but I wasn't told about it and have no reason to make it my business at all.
Kim told Tim so he had a duty to report it, as would have I. The mods have it from there, and that's pretty much it. They have whatever investigative process they have and I'm not a part of it.
Being offended about stuff is absolutely is a choice. Being offended for someone else, is always a bit more questionable, but might even be the right choice. I simply pointed out the obvious with my quote.
Someone can't offend me if I choose not to be offended. I usually don't. I'm usually more concerned about their weird or bad behavior than offended by it.
But I've seen bad people do really bad things and jibber jabber opinions and trolling on the Internet is way way way down that scale overall. It probably easily offends someone, but not me.
Once you've seen people actually harmed by others, blather on the Internet is pretty low on the "I'm going to pretend I'm offended by that," list.
Watching the Chicago crack head kill someone seconds before I rolled by in my van for $20, and seeing the aftermath of Chicago homeless guys beating another homeless guy's head in with a baseball bat and being the one who had to drive him to Cook County and see how Chicago's medical system treated him afterward...
Yeah, internet riffs and opinions typed on a screen are pretty much "first world problems" from here.
If you've lived a sheltered life, you probably think Internet words on message boards or even (good lord...) paid advertising websites with "news" about celebrities and politicians are a lot more important than they really are.
So apologies to Tim or anyone else who worries about such things. I guess. Not really though.
There's a guy I could introduce Tim to, who never did anything worse than stand on the wrong street corner in Chicago who has permanent brain damage and slurs all his speech from the results of a real argument and a last-resort hospital that let him sit in the waiting room for over an hour with his skull cracked from a real argument.
If misinterpreting things on the Internet with not a single clue why someone believes it, and the wielding "the mighty power of the block" on an Internet forum about aviation, makes someone feel like they made a real difference in that world, feel free. Knock yourself out.
PS... I drove the guy to the hospital because he was too scared to be in an ambulance. He'd been beaten repeatedly by Chicago cops, or so he claimed and people who worked there longer than I did, never confronted him or anyone else who claimed it. He wouldn't go anywhere near public safety uniformed people if he could help it, and after a head blow he definitely wouldn't.
So, it was that or he would have run off and died in an alley. We, the volunteers at the shelter, decided it was the best we could do and I was the unlucky guy who owned a van at the time.
I think I'll happily laugh at all of the "problems" people think they have on the Internet. If you want to see real problems, head on over to a homeless shelter or a prison ministry and let me know if you still think your petty Internet arguments about celebrities and politicians are worth getting "offended" over. Maybe toss in some volunteer time at a place that uses volunteers so that every penny their business earns can be spent on renovations to low income housing for single moms.
All those piddly little internet problems people thin they're saving the world from, from behind a keyboard, will just melt away in importance, I promise. That's when you see clearly that it's a willful choice to be a part of the perennially "offended" suburbanite popularity contest about who can be coolest by being offended by the latest offense-du-jour.
Hopefully that better frames my reasoning behind not giving much of a crap about these topics. Never seen any internet warriors claim they were offended that their city even has a homeless shelter... And scant few who donate time, money, or personal effort to house humans.
But here's my challenge to anyone who thinks they're "offended" by a politician or for someone who can speak for themselves. Mail $100 every time you're offended on the Internet to your local homeless shelter to feed a fellow human being. You'll get over your hair trigger on populist Internet topics real damn quick.