The irony was that he was killed in car wreck with airbags, seat belts, safety crunchable frames, etc. .
Somehow I think people set themselves up to become victims. The woman who is terrified or obsessed with the possibility of being raped, ends up getting raped.
This guy who was afraid of anything that moves his body from place to place, takes all the safety precautions, yet ends up being killed in a car wreck.
People who get mugged, in carjackings, raped, robbed, beaten, and even murdered, is it possible that they are sending out some sort of signal to their attackers, or even themselves?
I had a girlfriend years ago who was terrified of driving. She never drove on a freeway, she mostly walked or rode her bicycle. She never drove unless she absolutely had to. She actually rolled her car making a turn while driving about twenty miles an hour in her own neighborhood, she had made too sharp a turn, if you can believe that.
I had another lady who worked for me years ago, she had been raped when she was in college. She was working alone while I ran an errand. When I came back, a fellow in his forties, well dressed, was leaving as I came in.
When I walked to the back where she was, she was shaking like a leaf, all the color had drained from her face, she could hardly talk she was so terrified. The guy had come in to the shop, browsed around the gallery for a while, then left. He never said a word to her, he didn't even see her, she was afraid to come out front and ask if he needed help. She looked and acted like a victim.
I was visiting some friends in New York years ago and there was a thing on TV about muggers. The gist of it was if you don't want to be mugged, look everyone dead in the eyes and convince them you are a better mugger than they are. In other words, show absolutely no fear.
I guess it's all about how your attitude and confidence is in doing the things you do, that keeps you out of, or gets you into, trouble.
John
after the Star Trek comment?