“Some of you are giving me good information and some of you make it seem like I need to make 250k a year to afford a cessna 152 so let me just ask you this:...”
You better believe it ... between me and my wife we made 230k last year and I am still often questioning myself if I can afford this ( and I only own and maintain a small , 2 seater , 120 knots LSA... )
That depends on a lot of things though. I don't make what you make, however:
I bought a house that was 1/4 the price of what I qualified for, and paid it off in 7 years.
With no house payment, I was able to eliminate having car payments. (though car payments were eliminated prior to house payoff, but have bought 2 cars since)
With no house or car payments I was able to sock away a bunch of money, and write a check for an airplane (9 years after I bought the house)
In May, I finally took my first real vacation since 2005.
So, while making less than you and your wife, I am probably able to have more towards aviation because I didn't overspend in other areas. There's also the cost of living on where someone lives as well. My non aviation monthly budget consists of
$250 - Internet, cable, cellular
$170 - Property Taxes
$300 - House, car, truck, life, liability insurances
$300 - Food
$100 - Entertainment
$150 - Gas and Misc
That's about it. So lets make the aviation budget $1500 month, of that I have fixed costs of
$80 - insurance
$185 - hangar
$700 - 10 hours of fuel (that's on the high side though - it's closer to $570)
That leaves $535 a month for maintenance, oil changes, and gotchas.
I only need to bring home around $35k after taxes to afford this life. Between the Fed 22% and the state 4.4% (?) income taxes, I only need to make $45k a year to live this lifestyle. (Assuming I didn't forget something in my list above) Coincidentally, that is my salary - which I never bothered to really correlate until just now.
Now, if you are like most people in the $200k range you probably have a house that's upwards of $300k (maybe you don't but probability says so) but that's $2000+ a month, so there's another $33k you need to make before taxes. A couple car payments at $300/month, you need to make another $10k... then of course your property taxes are higher since the house costs more, and now the insurance does as well.
If you pay everything off before getting into aviation, well, it becomes a whole lot easier to live with an airplane. IF the OP didn't have all those monthly payments he could easily afford a 4 place airplane.
Disclosure: I do get a yearly bonus, but that never goes against the budget, because some years it might be $0. The years I do take one, most of it goes to retirement investment, emergency funds, and the rest on hookers and blow.
Edit: I didn't check all the math numbers, I may be off.