Ted
The pilot formerly known as Twin Engine Ted
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Sudden, senseless death is always hard to bear. I wish I could tell you things will be OK. My personal opinion is that only a total sociopath is ever "OK" after something like this.
Your life will change, and you will adapt. But you don't ever forget. Sometimes you can go an entire week without thinking about it.
Sometimes.
But you don't ever forget.
When I mustered out of the USAF in 1973, I was almost 25 years old. I had more dead friends, KIA, than I had living friends.
Each morning, when I wake up, I dedicate the day to one of those friends who never got to be old enough to retire.
We all want to believe that everything will be ok. The problem is there are some things for which it will never be ok. Death is hard, but explainable deaths are usually easier to move on from. Cancer, old age, these things happen and are expected. They usually have warning, too. When my grandmother died, it was expected and a blessing - she was 94, miserable, and barely functioning. She'd been that way since shortly past her 90th birthday. She was done with this world. Her funeral was not a sad one.
When people are on the other end of the life spectrum with much life left to live and much to look forward to, it's not that way at all.
Sometimes you don't get over it, you get on with it.