I always find it kind of strange that people buy as their 1st gun a large-caliber handgun. I did it too, with a .40 caliber Glock. I quickly found it too big to conceal carry. Its also one of the worst choices for home defense, like most handguns. They are, by their nature, comparatively inaccurate and hold less rounds than a shotgun or rifle.
I always tell people to start with a truly easy to conceal weapon you can take everywhere. My personal choices are a S&W .38 638 when I have big pockets and a Ruger LCP .380 auto for shorts. Then get a good 18.5 inch shotgun,12 gauge, for home defense. I prefer a pump action Mossberg, all black, all business. No real concern about shooting the neighbors by accident when you are using buckshot inside your home.
If you like big handguns like the 1911, .40, .45, .357, etc, rest assured, so do I, but they are really only good for the range or for open carry. If you are expecting a fire fight, they are not your weapon of choice. If you unexpectedly encounter a fire fight, they will probably be in your center console because you got tired of walking around with a giant bulge in your pants.
My opinion only
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