You did the right thing in having smart financial planning. And the stress of an ATC job deserves a nice paycheck.
No offense, but spending more money on things that are unnecessary (bigger house, better car, more expensive neighborhood, private school, etc) does not give a person the same standing as another making less money when s--- hits the fan and paychecks stop. The richer person could sell an expensive car and buy a more reasonable one, while the poorer person could not get any cash from that situation. If you get paid 100K+ and you choose to spend it all every month and now your mortgage, car payment and other debts are due, my sympathy is not going to go to you, but to the guy that makes 40K and is in the same situation.