So I promised to contact King Schools for clarification about this question in another thread. However, that other thread got a bit tangled with multiple topics so I'll post the followup here for easier reading.
To recap...
In the King video Martha said yes, you are required to fly to your filed alternate. However, the response here was:
So one of the course creators (I'm slightly disappointed it wasn't Martha herself) emailed me back and cited FAR 91.185(c) and 91.185(c)(1)(iv) which says:
"If the failure occurs in IFR conditions, or if paragraph (b) of this section cannot be complied with, each pilot shall continue the flight according to the following:
<list of things>
...by the route filed in the flight plan."
And apparently they take that to include the filed alternate.
However, he did give the caveat that if your alternate is also below minimums and you are running low on fuel then you could and should invoke FAR 91.3 by declaring an emergency and go where you need to go.
But it sounds like in a lost comms situation you can't deviate from your filed alternate (assuming it's legally and safely flyable) simply because someplace else is better.
To recap...
The scenario: You filed to XXX with YYY as your alternate. En route to XXX, you lose comms and you never get VMC. You shoot an approach to XXX but it's below minimums so you go missed. At that point, aren't you required to fly to YYY (assuming you never hit VMC between XXX and YYY) even though ZZZ might have been a better option?
In the King video Martha said yes, you are required to fly to your filed alternate. However, the response here was:
No, you are not required to fly to YYY. Go to the better option.
...
Lost comm? No different. No regulation, rule, or FAA guidance I know of saying you have to go to the one you filed to show you thought about fuel reserves.
So one of the course creators (I'm slightly disappointed it wasn't Martha herself) emailed me back and cited FAR 91.185(c) and 91.185(c)(1)(iv) which says:
"If the failure occurs in IFR conditions, or if paragraph (b) of this section cannot be complied with, each pilot shall continue the flight according to the following:
<list of things>
...by the route filed in the flight plan."
And apparently they take that to include the filed alternate.
However, he did give the caveat that if your alternate is also below minimums and you are running low on fuel then you could and should invoke FAR 91.3 by declaring an emergency and go where you need to go.
But it sounds like in a lost comms situation you can't deviate from your filed alternate (assuming it's legally and safely flyable) simply because someplace else is better.