Some bad news

My sympathies Scott - It's hard for a daughter to lose her Mother.
 
Symphathies to you, Karen, and family
 
Sorry to hear that Scott. Condolences to her from here.
 
We haven't met, but please accept my condolences. Losing loved ones at any time is difficult.
 
Condolences from here too, though I have not met the lucky woman. I hope that she is at least free from the monster that is regret.
 
Scott, have not met Karen but I can still send my thoughts and prayers to both of you. Hang in there and let her lean on you.
 
Scott, very sorry to hear this my thoughts and condolences are with you and your SO.
 
Never met, but send positive thoughts her way anyway. That's rough, I'm sorry. :(
 
That stinks. Sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are for both of you.
 
Sorry to hear that, Scott. Thoughts and prayers from the Jones household.
 
So sorry to hear of the sad news. It's never an easy thing but especially so at a time such as Easter weekend.
You both will be in our thoughts and prayers.
 
Having met isn't a prerequisite for sending my condolences and prayers. Sorry to hear the sad news...
 
Scott, my sympathies to you and Karen.

Was it sudden/unexpected or did she have the opportunity for good-byes?
 
bstratt said:
Scott, my sympathies to you and Karen.

Was it sudden/unexpected or did she have the opportunity for good-byes?
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She was not feeling well early in the week and her blood sugar went out of whack. On Tuesday she started having a pain in her side and some trouble breathing. It seemed like pneumonia was a distinct possibility. The nurses at the nursing home decided, with out prodding, to call in her doctor and after an exam it was decided to move her to the hospital. She was diagnosed on Wednesday with pneumonia and a possible bowel obstruction. She was not considered strong enough for surgery if there was an obstruction, since there were other issues to this was not considered the most important thing. Then on Thursday her kidneys started shutting down and that became the big issue. She was not at all strong enough for dialysis so a treatment of some fluids, sodium bicarb, some meds to up her very low blodd pressure, and some other stuff was started. It was grave and we knew it, so we started gathering family. She drifted in and out of it all day Friday. I left the hospital a little after midnight, Saturday morning (Friday night), Karen a niece and a sister law spent the night. He mom suddenly lost color and went into the downward spiral Saturday morning and passed away at 11am. Coincidentally it was exactly one year after my step-dad passed away.

Her mom has been in a nursing home for 14 years, suffered two strokes and was bed ridden. It was a little expected and a little unexpected.
 
My grandmother was in a nursing home for about 4-5 years prior to her death. While we always miss loved ones when they die, when they are in such situations and have deteriorated so much, it is certainly questionable whether or not they have been at all living. For me, it was more uplifting to know that she was at rest, even though I do miss her.
 
For what condolence it is, at least she was there when she passed. At that stage, while sad to say, it is almost a relief that they are out of their misery.

Last October I made it to Toronto on a Monday afternoon and my Mom passed ~8:00am Tuesday morning. We were all glad her almost year long battle with pain and suffering was over.
 
I lucked out with my suegra in a number of ways. She was one of the sweetest women I've ever met, and cultured and worldly to boot. And when it came time for her to meet her maker she went quickly and quietly. She even donated her body to Science. I still have what's left (cremains) in the basement somewhere. Ewwww.

The best part was we moved her here a year and a half before, and she really enjoyed being in the midwest and being near us. She had a genuinely good time, and Mrs. S. got to spend a lot of time with her. When all was said and done we had few regrets, which was nice. It is never easy loosing a loved one, but if you can manage to leave nothing unsaid or undone, it helps.

The SO will feel the loss for some time to come.
 
Never easy. I'm sorry. Pass my condolences along to Karen.
 
Scott: Condolences from me and my family to you and yours. It sucks and there's not much any of us can do except support each other in these times.
 
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