Wouldn’t it be sexist of us to ignore her?Pretty funny that a bunch of men are answering her question.
Welcome to POA, coolplane47! I'm a "fairly" (not pretty. ) new girl to aviation, too, so I can't say that my opinion is worth anything, but I don't really think that airlines as a whole necessarily have a higher level of that sort of stuff. I just think it's a lot more public when it happens. Everybody hears when a Southwest captain makes a stupid, inappropriate joke, but if that joke had happened at the office I first worked at, it wouldn't have even reached manager level, and definitely not the news circuit. For better or worse, that "good and moral conduct" clause in the regs for pilot qualifications exists in peoples' minds, too, and they judge accordingly.
That said, respect is respect. If you want to receive it, you have to give it first. And ultimately, that's the only thing preventing rampant sexism from both sides, and yes, as women, we can harrass guys, too. There'll always be the guys who stare or whistle or make comments, especially if you're just being modest and actually are pretty. (I don't know, since I'm not a guy, but just being pretty may be a form of sexual harrassment. ) Thankfully, I don't have that blessing-curse, so it's a lot easier for guys to just fall into thinking of me as a teammate that's too short and needs help with heavy stuff. LOL
I've actually found that the primarily-guys makeup of GA is helpful as a girl, because just about everyone is willing to help. A couple examples - one night, a random stranger from the flight school helped me push the plane back into the hanger, even though I didn't ask (and believe me, pushing back a plane by yourself is almost impossible). Line guys are willing to go above and beyond. I am expecting that my being a woman pilot will give me an advantage in the hiring process, mostly because there's not that many women interested in aviation. Every person I've met that's been connected to aviation have all been guys except my current flight instructor. Not one person has been sexist or discouraging towards me being a pilot, or working towards being a professional. In fact, it's the opposite. They think it's pretty incredible. Yes, they're guys, and sometimes they say silly, gross or inappropriate things, but that's just a guy thing and they really don't know better. (Sorta sorry, guys, but it's true! ) Don't expect a guy to act or think like a woman, and you'll be much better off. Their brains have different wirings than ours do and some ...subjects apparently have higher priority than they do in a woman's paradigm. Don't let a guy use that as an excuse to talk or act dirty to you, but keep in mind most guys aren't running around trying to sexually harrass women, no matter what media and special interest groups would like you to believe.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you don't have problems with guys in normal life, if you give respect to the guys you work with, and you respect yourself and don't do stupid, flirty or inappropriate things, you'll be fine and you'll get along great with the fellow pilots you work with, whether they're a guy or a girl.
My two cents. Worth what you paid for 'em! They may not be worth anything, as I don't see the apparently rampant sexist taint to the replies so far, so I may have been born without that gauge or sensor or something.
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Oh, and really, asking for pics of a 16 year old? WTF. Joke or not, come on guys, you're old enough to be her great grandfather.
Wish I could like that a million times. Perfect. You sound exactly like my wife.... one of the strongest, smartest people I know. Thank you for taking the time to write that.Welcome to POA, coolplane47! I'm a "fairly" (not pretty. ) new girl to aviation, too, so I can't say that my opinion is worth anything, but I don't really think that airlines as a whole necessarily have a higher level of that sort of stuff. I just think it's a lot more public when it happens. Everybody hears when a Southwest captain makes a stupid, inappropriate joke, but if that joke had happened at the office I first worked at, it wouldn't have even reached manager level, and definitely not the news circuit. For better or worse, that "good and moral conduct" clause in the regs for pilot qualifications exists in peoples' minds, too, and they judge accordingly.
That said, respect is respect. If you want to receive it, you have to give it first. And ultimately, that's the only thing preventing rampant sexism from both sides, and yes, as women, we can harrass guys, too. There'll always be the guys who stare or whistle or make comments, especially if you're just being modest and actually are pretty. (I don't know, since I'm not a guy, but just being pretty may be a form of sexual harrassment. ) Thankfully, I don't have that blessing-curse, so it's a lot easier for guys to just fall into thinking of me as a teammate that's too short and needs help with heavy stuff. LOL
I've actually found that the primarily-guys makeup of GA is helpful as a girl, because just about everyone is willing to help. A couple examples - one night, a random stranger from the flight school helped me push the plane back into the hanger, even though I didn't ask (and believe me, pushing back a plane by yourself is almost impossible). Line guys are willing to go above and beyond. I am expecting that my being a woman pilot will give me an advantage in the hiring process, mostly because there's not that many women interested in aviation. Every person I've met that's been connected to aviation have all been guys except my current flight instructor. Not one person has been sexist or discouraging towards me being a pilot, or working towards being a professional. In fact, it's the opposite. They think it's pretty incredible. Yes, they're guys, and sometimes they say silly, gross or inappropriate things, but that's just a guy thing and they really don't know better. (Sorta sorry, guys, but it's true! ) Don't expect a guy to act or think like a woman, and you'll be much better off. Their brains have different wirings than ours do and some ...subjects apparently have higher priority than they do in a woman's paradigm. Don't let a guy use that as an excuse to talk or act dirty to you, but keep in mind most guys aren't running around trying to sexually harrass women, no matter what media and special interest groups would like you to believe.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you don't have problems with guys in normal life, if you give respect to the guys you work with, and you respect yourself and don't do stupid, flirty or inappropriate things, you'll be fine and you'll get along great with the fellow pilots you work with, whether they're a guy or a girl.
My two cents. Worth what you paid for 'em! They may not be worth anything, as I don't see the apparently rampant sexist taint to the replies so far, so I may have been born without that gauge or sensor or something.
I wasn't the one asking for pics (and, I don't believe any one did as anything other than a light-hearted attempt at humor... ), but how was someone supposed to know the OP's age without looking at the OP's profile page... and who looks at profile pages? Isn't THAT a little creepy, unless you happen to look at EVERY profile page of every new poster?
@coolplane47 :
Some people on this board tend to think that the corporate HR office is the only place where this issue matters, and since it's illegal to discriminate in hiring, therefore everything is fixed now. This is not true. This is a question about culture. A culture that you are already seeing (sadly) manifest on this thread. Fortunately, cultures CAN change. So stay optimistic. Things are much better than they used to be.
Some people will just want to talk about your looks, and will not take you seriously. IGNORE them.
Some people will advise you that the best strategy is to blend in. To grow a "thick skin". To not make waves. To not call out your male colleagues ("they are just joking around"). To not stand up for yourself and your rights and your dignity. Now, this is a difficult minefield you are navigating -- especially when dealing with colleagues and employers when the stakes are high -- and there is no one right answer for how to deal with it. If you complain, you'll be perceived as whiny or bitchy, and this will be the only thing people will remember about you. If you don't complain, you'll be perceived as compliant. It's a no-win scenario. We are all different, and have to find a way of moving through the world that works for us individually; "blending in" is one strategy that works for many. Personally, I employ this strategy less and less as I have gotten older. No matter how you choose to deal with it, remember that your humanity and dignity matter. You deserve both.
You will feel watched and studied wherever you go. Your landings, your safety record, even your look and mannerisms, everything will be scrutinized more than usual, because you are different and people are curious, and because some will be looking (consciously or unconsciously) for evidence that you don't belong. You'll get used to it, and earn respect from those whose respect is worth earning.
Seek out other women pilots. You are not betraying any kind of "equality dream" by doing so. Male pilots can hang out as a group in a hangar and feel that relaxed tribal camaraderie that comes with being in a space where one feels understood and accepted, and for them it's called "Tuesday". You deserve that experience occasionally too. Start with your local 99's.
Remember that you have lots of male allies in the community too, those who will support and encourage and defend you. Even complete strangers! Seek them out. Seek out mentors, wherever you can. Remember that great role models come in all genders, races, shapes and sizes.
Click on her profile and choose “start a conversation.” Welcome to POA!Thank you! I appreciate all the other women who have taken the time to make helpful comments!
I will pm you @kath sometime when I figure out that function . . .
I can’t speak for the rest of the world, but it seems to me an appropriate response is “I’m offended by that, please don’t do it anymore.”Yes, they're guys, and sometimes they say silly, gross or inappropriate things, but that's just a guy thing and they really don't know better. (Sorta sorry, guys, but it's true! )
It's also important to remember that women are individuals too. What offends someone might not offend someone else. Just like men.As with anything, we are not born knowing what will or won’t offend every individual.
A good showing?! Why isn’t anyone on here telling the OP the truth?Well this is going well. Good showing, everyone.
A good showing?! Why isn’t anyone on here telling the OP the truth?
OP, if there’s one thing you need to hear and take away from this forum, it’s this: There is nothing special about anyone (man or woman) becoming a pilot.
People turn aviation into some glorified “calling” that is in the blood while the spend thousands of dollars on training costs and years away from home (talking about professional pilots). Truth is, however, that no one really cares and none of us are that special!
I’m also perplexed why you think female pilots are either not widely accepted or considered “outsiders”. Do you really think that the aviation Gods are sitting around the table thinking of ways to keep women out of the cockpit?
Just look at other respected and well-compensated professions: Doctors, lawyers, high finance, etc. All of these have countless woman working in them, in often executive level roles. Do you think that stigma exists against them, too?
The reason why there are so few female pilots is the same reason why there are so few female mechanics, machinists, and home builders: Airplanes tend to be a “guy” thing.
Again, I’m not suggesting women cannot perform these tasks as well as men can; I’m just saying people often choose a field that interests them. Women, in general, do not find airplanes all that interesting. There’s no external forces out there trying to dissuade women from being pilots.
Posted in a thread asking if misogyny in aviation is still a thing. That is just gat dang funny right there. And kind of sad.I don't suspect there was a misunderstanding. Just boys being boys...
I can’t speak for the rest of the world, but it seems to me an appropriate response is “I’m offended by that, please don’t do it anymore.”
As with anything, we are not born knowing what will or won’t offend every individual. Ignorance is forgivable. Ignorant indifference, not so much.
Ok...maybe “offend” is the wrong word. But letting someone know when they’ve crossed the line into unacceptable is important. Letting it fester doesn’t seem to help. As you said, we really don’t know any better.I guess I tend to reserve offense for true insults and malicious attempts to hurt me. I don't mind teasing or jokes in good fun, but most of the time in my experience, guys know when they've crossed the line into unacceptable.
I'm not in the aviation industry, so I don't have much to add other than welcome to flight, and PoA.Hi Y'all!
I'm a pretty new female student pilot hoping to pursue a career in corporate aviation.
Just curious if sexism/misogyny towards women is still a common problem in professional aviation. Has anyone had any experiences with this? I have read several articles that make this sound like a huge issue, but I know that not everything you read on the internet is true (to quote Abraham Lincoln!) and I would like to get a broader view of the subject.
To all the guys reading this: Please don't be offended! So far, everyone I have met in aviation (part 61 training at a non-towered airport + gliding) has been 110% kind, encouraging, and supportive.
Thanks in advance!
Agreed. I'm just a community private pilot and have been one for over 50 years, but I'll say that the OP is welcome in my little corner of the world anytime.I'm not in the aviation industry, so I don't have much to add other than welcome to flight, and PoA.
Hi Y'all!
I'm a pretty new female student pilot hoping to pursue a career in corporate aviation.
Just curious if sexism/misogyny towards women is still a common problem in professional aviation. Has anyone had any experiences with this? I have read several articles that make this sound like a huge issue, but I know that not everything you read on the internet is true (to quote Abraham Lincoln!) and I would like to get a broader view of the subject.
To all the guys reading this: Please don't be offended! So far, everyone I have met in aviation (part 61 training at a non-towered airport + gliding) has been 110% kind, encouraging, and supportive.
Thanks in advance!
Given the fact that grammatical skills are noticeably absent in a large percentage of online writing these days (including the incorrect usage of "your" in the post quoted above), it seems forgiveable that I misinterpreted the lack of a comma in the original post, and read it as if there was a comma present. According to current internet protocol as described by a close friend's teenaged daughter, punctuation is considered rude in online textual communication, so I tend to insert it mentally where it is absent. Also, in my original reply, I even called attention to the fact that I may be misinterpreting the meaning. Trust me... I am not someone anyone needs to worry about.If you read the post as "pretty" and not "pretty new", your probably someone she should be worried about....
Asking for clarification is a waste of your time because they don’t care what you think and you are free to go **** off. In my experience...Given the fact that grammatical skills are noticeably absent in a large percentage of online writing these days (including the incorrect usage of "your" in the post quoted above), it seems forgiveable that I misinterpreted the lack of a comma in the original post, and read it as if there was a comma present. According to current internet protocol as described by a close friend's teenaged daughter, punctuation is considered rude in online textual communication, so I tend to insert it mentally where it is absent. Also, in my original reply, I even called attention to the fact that I may be misinterpreting the meaning. Trust me... I am not someone anyone needs to worry about.
I would welcome the moderators' clarification as to what statements in this thread were even remotely non-inclusive of any individuals.
Yes, but it's still pretty funny.Wouldn’t it be sexist of us to ignore her?
Yes, but it's still pretty funny.
I guess "rampant" is in the eye of the beholder and may differ depending on industry, local/company culture, and geography, just like any "ism." I'm old enough to have watched changes taking place. Better than 30-40 years ago? Absolutely! Done and gone? No.I'll say it again in a different way - yes, there is sexism in the world. That includes aviation. But it isn't rampant.
If you read the post as "pretty" and not "pretty new", your probably someone she should be worried about....
Well this is going well. Good showing, everyone.