You have no idea how leveraged up a great many of those rich looking "big home and nice toys" owners really are. I'd be willing to bet both the Columbia 300 and the Benz were on payments, as are most of those starter-castles. I see this going on all around me.
I am the child of immigrant parents who didn't have two nickels to rub together when they arrived here decades ago. I learned a lot about hard work, thrift, getting an education and avoiding debt from them. Those attributes and no small amount of fortuitous luck and serendipity have allowed me a level of success in most aspects of my life beyond anything I could have imagined as a kid growing up.
However, I feel like I am completely out of place in a world gone mad on credit. I work in the oil patch, which as most of you know is the latest sector of the global economy to bust. I am watching neighbours and business associates who are on their second spouse, third move-up mansion, kids in private school, his & her leased BMWs/Audis in the driveway...and having lost just one high paying job of two they can no longer make the payments. These are the same folks with the outwardly wealthy appearance that others used to envy. And there's lots of them around these busted parts these days. Meanwhile my (first & only) wife and I drive a pair of well worn pick-up trucks (none of the Bimmer driver neighbours make comments about them any more
), worked for years to pay off our mortgage faster and now have enough money left each month to support my indulgence in a bulbous, un-sexy but immensely enjoyable (and loan free) Piper Aztec. The irony that some of my erstwhile "wealthy" neighbours think I am "rich" because I own a twin engine airplane hasn't gone entirely unnoticed
It ain't what you earn, it's what you spend.