I've had all sorts of thoughts swimming around in my head every since I came across this. Ugh.
But I'm going to have to ask myself and my wife if it will be worth the elevated risk. I can minimize the risks by being smart, getting good training, staying current, planning well, etc., but there will still be risks no matter how well I approach flying. Gravity and speed can be an deadly enemy when things go wrong (for whatever reason) and we can't recover or recover in time.
GA flying is as safe or dangerous as the individual pilot makes it. The fact that commercial airline travel is as safe as it is (at least in the US) is proof that when approached with proficiency, rigorous training and hard standards, it can be remarkably safe. Accidents happen when people don't hold themselves to limits, standards, proficiency, sloppy pre flights, poor weather planning, etc.
Statistical 1/100,000 and rates like that for GA are dubious at best... because it lumps all these pilots into one group:
-pilot A: VFR pilot who goes up on weekends when conditions are beautiful to have lunch with his dad once a month, 55 nm cross country trip. Follows checklists, calls the briefer, studious about personal limits
-pilot B: Bonanza / Cirrus / 210 pilot who logs 200-300 hrs per year, of which 50 hrs are actual IMC. Goes up in adverse conditions but stays proficient, doesn't do stupid pilot tricks, always flies the same route for work reasons, but does fly in known icing conditions (Fiki plane), often at night, etc.
-pilot C: non instrument rated pilot who flies 10-20 hrs per year, occasionally flies IMC "but just to get through a layer" - never talks to ATC. Last flight review was June of 2014, last annual was 2015
-pilot D: Brand new TBM, 250 hr pilot, fresh instrument, only 2.1 hrs actual.. departs in all sorts of conditions, hardly preflights, doesn't check weather, has had some "close calls"
-pilot E: everyone on the field knows he sucks, but everyone is scared to rat him out to the FSDO and no one ever flies with him again
**it's like skiing safety stats.. you lump the beginner who does only greens in with the guy crushing it on the black and double blacks and hitting the glades
**You have to have a type - A front seat approach to flying. Flying will be as safe or dangerous as you make it, and put yourself into. Neglecting to notice steadily decreasing oil pressure on your 3 hr long cross country flight, or cyl 4 egt showing weird readings while overflying good fields, and getting an engine failure over the Grand Canyon isn't dumb luck or "flying is dangerous" nonsense, that's on YOU, the pilot, for not noticing the oil pressure and cyl 4 issue and pressing on despite it. Continuing into icing conditions in a non FIKI aircraft because you've done it before, and you should be out of it soon, and you really have to get home to Susie's graduation? Again, that's on the pilot, not on "well this hobby is dangerous"
If most crashes were caused by wing failures, engine's catastrophically blowing up, meteor's hitting planes, etc., then I'd agree that flying is "dangerous" - but the lion's share of accidents are entirely preventable
Having said that, everyone does have their bad days, but that's the same risk you take driving, or doing anything. I feel much more comfortable in the air flying a plane then I do in a car, not because of statistics, but because in the air I know that I am the only real variable. In the car however? A drunk driver t-boning me is out of my control