I need to come clean....

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Its been almost 3 years....a night that will forever be cemented in my brain as the night that my life could have ended. But what's worse is the deception over the last 3 years that night brought on. There are some details that I will take to my grave, but there are some details that I think need to be brought to light, if for no other reason, to try to regain some respect when I look in the mirror.

I went out for a night of debauchery with some friends back in 2008, to a bar called "Geckos." We had been drinking heavily, and met up with some ladies. As the night progressed, everyone (except me) decided to go to the bathroom to do some cocaine. I decided to steal one of my friends' keys because I felt he was too drunk/drugged up to drive home, and I (in my stupor) thought that was the smartest way to keep him from driving.

As the night progressed, the girl I was with suggested that we head to her apartment, which was right down the road (about 2 blocks), so we decided to walk. My friend confronted me and accused me of stealing his keys. We got into a very heated argument, which ended with me returning his keys and saying some things I probably should have never said.

Anyway, as we walked back to her apartment, my friend left the bar, and thought it would be funny to act like he was going to run us both down. I assumed he would stop, he assumed I would move, and it turns out, we were both wrong, and I took the full brunt of his pickup truck at a very fast speed. Right before contact, I threw the girl away in my drunkenness because I finally realized that he was not going to stop. After I got hit, she took off.

My friends got out of the car and carried me to the sidewalk, and the friend that was driving the truck left to go home. My other friend called his dad to take us to the hospital, where he told everyone I had drunkenly stumbled over a guardrail and fallen into a cement ditch, striking my head and arm on the way down.

I thought I was going to die. My jaw was broken, my arm was broken, and I was severely concussed, slipping into and out of consciousness. At some point, I was apparently clear enough to ask my friend to go to our house (he was my roommate at the time) and get some stuff for me, since I thought I was going to be in the hospital for a long time. I also asked him to find my phone (which was apparently sitting on the median) and to come here and tell everyone what happened. I don't remember if I told him to continue the lie or to tell the truth, and honestly, I wouldn't be surprised either way.

And that is where the story begins here. He decided to act like he was my concerned father, and to let everyone know that I was nearing death's door basically. When he returned with my phone, I was able to answer a lot of everyone's text messages....I was in so much pain, once I sobered up, I was given morphine and had my jaw wired shut. My arm was casted, and the recovery process began about 2 days later. My rehabilitation for arm movement completed about a year after that.

I feel horrible. The lie has plagued me for nearly 3 years, because there were some who thought I had randomly been stricken by a drunk driver, and that I was some kind of hero and master of causes. In reality, I was a drunk douchebag that got hit by a friend that was playing around while drunk.

I talked to that friend on the phone yesterday for the first time in 2 years. It was his 28th birthday, and he was celebrating by getting coked up and finding girls. I think that was what finally made me decide to come clean today....I don't know why.

Its time.

I'm your Cowboy Pilot. I'm sorry.
 
We need a "Like" button like on Facebook. I'd click it on Tony's post!

Nick, you've changed a lot in the past three years. Says a lot to me that you're willing to put it all out here like this; not all would have the guts to come clean. Cheers!
 
It sounds like you tortured yourself more than anyone else could.

Don't lie or deceive. It's too much trouble. The mismatched information is likely to come full circle and blow up in your face.

As for friends who will deliberately run you down with their vehicle, you don't need that nonsense. Dump'em. Permanently.
 
Yep. Twas stupid.

Some people never learn.

Sounds like you did.

I'm glad you finally listened to the little angel dude on your shoulder, instead of the little devil dude on the other, and came clean. Takes guts. We'd have been none the wiser.

Sleep better tonight. Live and learn.
 
And another kid grows up. Not all do. Congratulations, Nick.

-Skip
 
...my friend left the bar, and thought it would be funny to act like he was going to run us both down. I assumed he would stop, he assumed I would move, and it turns out, we were both wrong, ...

It is somewhat logical to assume that your friend is not going to actually try to kill you. It is not logical, even for a drunk, to assume that your friend believes you are going to kill him and will jump out of the way of a moving car.

I think your 1st mistake is thinking this guy is your friend. And not knowing any more than you have told us, I am not so sure he wasn't really trying to kill you.

I am not real sure what you feel so guilty about, except for failing to tell the truth and having this guy put away. But at the time, you thought he was your "friend", and since you were drunk, you felt a sort of misplaced guilt. But guilt is one of the seven so-called phases of grief, and I am sure that finding this out about your friend caused a lot of grief.

Best of luck to you and I hope you can now get past this and leave it behind you.
 
Young and dumb and, full of.. well you can figure it out. You learn from your mistakes. Sounds like you did. And btw, we still like you.
It's safe to say many of us have skeletons in the closet. Good place for them.
 
Don't lie or deceive. It's too much trouble. The mismatched information is likely to come full circle and blow up in your face.

As for friends who will deliberately run you down with their vehicle, you don't need that nonsense. Dump'em. Permanently.

As my grandfather used to say, in his no BS way...

"If you're going to lie, you'd better have a damn good memory of who you told what."

Those people definitely aren't your friends. The entire scene screams co-dependence to me. Do some reading on the topic and see what you think.

Sounds like you're on the road to movin' on. Good on ya!
 
Nick lets get a few things straight.

First, When you say you that your our Cowboy Pilot you don't mean your "Cowboy Pilot" right????

Second, you did get hit by an ahole drunk driver it just wasn't random.

Third you can atone by coming to the flybq.
 
Nick now realizes what his buddy meant when he said "I'd hit it."

Whatever dude. Facts are facts, you probably saved the life of a stranger, and whether you got hit by a random douchebag, or a douchebag you know doesn't change anything. So you were drunk? Big deal. You weren't driving. Nothing to feel guilty about.
 
You've got nothing to feel guilty about Nick. It takes a lot of intestinal fortitude for someone to "come clean" about something like this. That, in itself, shows what you're really made of, and reflects well on you (in my opinion) since you've walked away with your head on your shoulders.
You sure as hell walked away from it better than the d-wads that asissted you in the experience. Keep your chin up.
 
Nick, that's quite a story and very obviously you grew up a lot from that incident in your life. Thanks for sharing, you never know who else it might help.
 
"Never lie when the truth will do"... a wise saying. I understand the impulse to create a cover story in that situation, but...well, you figured it out.

At least you had the presence of mind, and the compassion, to shove the girl out of the way... something to be proud of. Seriously.

But look what you got for your trouble- she left you there. Real classy. :rolleyes2:
Oh well- I guess "a good deed is its own reward". :dunno:
 
Man alive. Did NOT see that coming.

Look at it this way: You're still you, and your "friend" is still stuck with who he is. That makes you the winner.

However it all happened, Nick, we like you a lot here. You're our big, hairy, teddy bear. OK, big, hairy, kinda gonzo teddy bear.

Now go pour some water or pop or milk or something down your nose.
 
As my grandfather used to say, in his no BS way...

"If you're going to lie, you'd better have a damn good memory of who you told what."

Those people definitely aren't your friends. The entire scene screams co-dependence to me. Do some reading on the topic and see what you think.

Sounds like you're on the road to movin' on. Good on ya!

At some age, a good memory is handy when you're trying to tell the truth.
 
As my grandfather used to say, in his no BS way...

"If you're going to lie, you'd better have a damn good memory of who you told what."

As my dad told me when I was in the vicinity of people doing something stupid, "Even the appearance of impropriety is enough to ruin your reputation. Once it's gone, you can never get it back." He only needed to tell me that one time.
 
Nick,
While we don't know one another I have one more lesson for you. Learn who to call "your friend" and who not to. That guy is not a friend for starters. If you have 2-3 friends in life your lucky...
 
Nick,

Thanks - And I'm glad you got that off your chest - But you still pushed the girl out of the way. That's the important part, right? I agree with Ed - Doesn't matter if you knew the drunk or not. He's still a drunk @$$hole, and you're still you, and we still like you.

It's safe to say many of us have skeletons in the closet. Good place for them.

Waitaminute. Does that mean that Nick's skeletons are now out of the closet? :rofl:

However it all happened, Nick, we like you a lot here. You're our big, hairy, teddy bear. OK, big, hairy, kinda gonzo teddy bear.

Hmmm...

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bear
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Gonzo

Now go pour some water or pop or milk or something down your nose.

:rofl:
 
Nick,
Thanks for "coming clean," though I don't see that you have much, if anything, to be embarrassed about. Worst I can see is you got drunk (no problem there), were trying to protect a perceived "friend" by hiding his keys when you knew he couldn't drive safely, and likely saved a girl's life by pushing her out of the way.
Are you perfect? No but then none of us are. You're what is colloquially known as "human."
 
Pushed a girl out of harms way getting grievously injured in the process! Damn, if that isn't good for some major nookie, I don't know what is!
 
... but there are some details that I think need to be brought to light, if for no other reason, to try to regain some respect when I look in the mirror.

....I'm sorry.

Well, if you needed to do this then you needed to do this. From the story it seems to me you had to almost die to to learn to live. That old Nick IS dead. You are a now a responsible, hard working adult with a life partner you love.

We all have things we regret. What we take away from those moments is what matters. Your "friend" seems to have ignored a lesson and opportunity sent to him by God. Let's pray he does not hurt anyone but himself before (or if) he finally grows up. I have a few "friends" like that. They are in their fifties now. Yeah, ...sad.

You did just fine Nick. God bless you.
 
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