For me Christmas is starting to feel like Groundhog Day

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As most of us, I loved Christmas as a kid. Not just the excitement of anticipating presents, but the whole thing, Bing Crosby singing about white Christmas, little drummer boy, etc. favorite thing of all was mom, dad, and I would take the car around neighborhoods and look at the different Christmas light decorations on many houses. By today’s standard, we’re pretty lame, but I thought they were perfect. We also had like most folk, not that many presents under the tree. But more than enough.

On my own at a pretty young age, it was still a magic time.
Later on, barely celebrated it at all, but still felt the melancholy that comes with it.

Moved to Norway in the early eighties. Had to learn to get used to their variations on Xmas. Specially their food (lots of greasey sausages, ribs with bacon grind on it,etc). The year I kinda was getting to like it, my wife pretty much ruined it a bit by the end of the meal giving me something “you might not like it but try it”, on a little plate after I was full. Rotten fish (Rakk fisk) that smelled terrible and taste worse.

But after some years, some of the traditions here are getting to me. They always run the same tv programs that all Norwegians grew up with and therefore have to watch, every year. A Disney program with the same cavalcade of Donald Duck, two chipmunks, goofy and Mickey on a trip with a mobile home, etc, all from the fifties or so. Then a Hungarian version of “Cinderella” (which was actually kinda cool the first ten times, as it is much closer the the Brothers Grimm version, and acted instead of animated), and then weirdest of all, a vaudeville sketch from England, of a butler to a lonely rich matron, who sets a table...get this, on New Years Eve, not Xmas, for imaginary guests (that we are led to believe are dead now, old suitors to the matron) where the butler has to go around the table after each course, and drink a shot for each of the “guests” a “cheers” to her and gets more and more drunk. Then they go upstairs for hanky panky...it’s very weird.
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Anyway, the Xmas ritual here is starting to seem so narrow and rigid it’s getting to me.
It’s a lot more than having to watch “home alone” or “it’s a wonderful life”.

But what really gets me these days is the Christmas music. Oh my god. Every musician wants to get a Christmas song in the rotation, get in on the cash cow and it shows by the dreck that rotates now on virtually every radio station. At the same time, it seems like the worst songs are being played every fifteen minutes and that there are a ton of tired pop versions of standards or, that Irish one is going to break me I know one day.

Since I’ve been here the last almost three decades, I don’t know if it’s changed a lot in the US, but suspect not as rigid for everyone. Here they can tend to be in lock step on Xmas.

Bah....Humbug. I think the US does this better.
 
I’m in the U.S. and all Christmas has become for me is a bunch of work. It really is for the kids. It’s magical for them because they don’t do the cooking and cleaning and shopping and shipping, and writing all those Christmas cards.

When you’re a kid it’s all no school, endless cookies, and a ton of presents! Then when you become parents you try to recreate your childhood Christmas memories for your own kids. When you get old it becomes tiresome and comes around year after year way too quickly, until it’s just another reminder that you’re careening faster and faster toward your death.

I like eggnog though.:)
 
I’m in the U.S. and all Christmas has become for me is a bunch of work. It really is for the kids. It’s magical for them because they don’t do the cooking and cleaning and shopping and shipping, and writing all those Christmas cards.

When you’re a kid it’s all no school, endless cookies, and a ton of presents! Then when you become parents you try to recreate your childhood Christmas memories for your own kids. When you get old it becomes tiresome and comes around year after year way too quickly, until it’s just another reminder that you’re careening faster and faster toward your death.

I like eggnog though.:)

Definitely , the grandkids for me is the saving grace. They are great. But, and this is the trend, we go overboard with presents every year. This isn’t one of those “in my day” things, but..in my day :) I got five or six presents maybe, one or two really good ones. One year I got a marionette horse, I couldn’t figure out what the hell my parents were thinking...tried to “play” with it, but it just was weird.

Its because of extended family (divorces, etc. remarrying) and just because you tend to want to give so much to them. But a few years ago, there was such a mountain under the tree, that it became a JOB for the kids. You’d see one of the grandkids open a present, and want to check it out and maybe play with it just a little, really glad and happy to get it, but the parents would say “no, no, no...you can’t open it now or we’ll never get to all the other presents” and the poor kid would have to put it aside, looking back at it as were forced to move on, open more. One year we didn’t finish. It’s like an assembly line job without bathroom breaks!

I should mention, in Norway the presents are opening on Christmas Eve. Even though I sound like a Scrooge, each year I get into the Santa costume, sneak outside, come to the door ringing the doorbell. The grandkids have figured out it is me but they won’t let me out of it just because the jig is up.

Im not against Xmas, but it is mainly the song rotation, and the ritual. I’m begging out of the rituals now because “basically...I’m American” and can turn it into a good thing, put in some headphones around this time and listen to some blues, or rock.
 
With no kids, the only stresses I have had at Christmas lately is having to spend even more time with the in-laws, and figuring out what to buy my wife and what to "hint" to her what I wanted. I have all the power tools I can fit in my garage and living in Florida, a couple of pairs of shorts and t-shirts during the year is all I need.

I can't figure out how to escape the in-laws,although this year we are taking a once-in-a-lifetime trip during the MIL's birthday month. It is also our 40th anniversary.

But I did figure out the gift thing. This is genius.

I simply told my wife to buy something for herself, but don't let me know what it is. She brought it home yesterday, all smiles. (that is the gift to me). It is under the fake tree (real trees are too stressful) and she will open it on Christmas Eve, as is her families tradition, and I will find out what I got her.

Perfect solution! I don't have to act like I love whatever it is she picked out for me, and I know she will get something she likes and we will both be happy. What could be better? (Well, maybe a drill press, bit I don't have room for it and I find I am too busy in retirement to find much use for it).

I have also figured how to eliminate the stress of nieces and nephews not thanking us for the expensive gifts we bought them. We just stopped buying them gifts and instead we give more to charity. Last year we paid all the over-due lunch accounts at a nearby elementary school in a rather low-income neighborhood. This year we sponsored a meal at the local veterans shelter. We did it midway between Thanksgiving and Christmas because everyone else contributes on the holidays. But they get cold and hungry on non-holidays too.
 
It's almost impossible for me to reply to this without violating the forum rules, but I'll tive it a shot. A lot of what we do to celebrate Christmas, a deeply meaningful religious holiday marking a miracle, IS done so that kids can feel something miraculous and joyous at a time when their frame of reference can only process things in terms of tangible gifts,sights, and sounds. I grew up in a used mobile home; we had very little money. On Christmas Day, Mom and Dad exchanged a small gift or two between them, but Santa always put some AMAZING toys under the tree for my sister and I! That, we understood! I'm sure making that happen took an entire year of very careful financial planning and hard work for my parents. They also spent a lot of time with us, making decorations by hand to make our trailer look magical. We tried to raise our own kids similarly...never lived extravagantly, but Christmas was magic. It IS a ton of work,but joyous work. When it starts to feel like JUST work, or stressful, I take a minute to remind myself of just exactly WHAT we are commemorating...and the joy in the work returns instantly.
An increasing number of people who purport to celebrate Christmas freely admit they like the decorations, tree, gifts, music, parties, clothing, and "holiday" in general, but don't subscribe to the belief behind it. If there's no deep meaning behind the work, the work indeed must become meaningless and excuriatingly stressful.
Christmas is magical, wondrous, and awe-inspiring. I'm 59, and it still gets moreso every year to me.
Back to work Christmas-ing! A Very Merry Christmas to all!
 
I thought pretty much hardly anybody “subscribed to the belief behind it” anymore ... but it is still fun and magical ... kind of like you don’t have to believe in Zeus and Hera to enjoy classical mythology stories.
 
Also trying to avoid violating the forum rules... Stepping back from the commercialization and towards the birth who's name is in the common name for the day is very helpful... we don't tire of good food, water, air, etc. and the less tangible, more profound gifts given to us are also meaningful and worth remembering. Participated in a particularly memorable seasonal concert with a local choir this year and it was pretty special bringing music that was appreciated to those listening.
 
I thought pretty much hardly anybody “subscribed to the belief behind it” anymore ... but it is still fun and magical ... kind of like you don’t have to believe in Zeus and Hera to enjoy classical mythology stories.

It would be nice for those who did not subscribe to the belief behind it to establish their own "Good Cheer Day" with similar yet uniquely their own traditions rather than co-opt a religious holiday. On the other hand, maybe the true spirit of Christmas may eventually be felt.
 
And we have The Hallmark Channel - hundreds of shows, one plot. And the Christmas songs on repeat (Mariah Carey, anyone?)...
 
It would be nice for those who did not subscribe to the belief behind it to establish their own "Good Cheer Day" with similar yet uniquely their own traditions rather than co-opt a religious holiday. On the other hand, maybe the true spirit of Christmas may eventually be felt.

I am not going to go in to spiritual aspect since this is highly personal except to mention that having your local Target start a Christmas sale a week earlier or having Amazon start sending you Christmas themed emails - in other words co-opting a religious holiday, should have no impact whatsoever on any deeper spiritual aspect of the belief behind the celebration and if it does then it wasn't spiritual to begin with.
 
I pretty much lost the Christmas spirit once I became an adult. If you are not a kid, don’t have kids, and are not religious, Christmas is just another day. I got away from exchanging gifts years ago. That said, I went to see them perform Handel’s Messiah at Grace Cathedral last week, just for something to do. It was cool, but very long...
 
the song rotation...

Be thankful that there is a song rotation!

Back in the mid-1970s, there was a music store that I had to pass by twice a day, that played a continuous loop of Jingle Bells "sung" by the barking dogs. I am amazed that the neighboring stores and nearby residents didn't burn the store down. -Skip
 
I think we just have beat the holiday to death.

It pretty much starts the day after thanksgiving, much earlier if you're a retailer now. Then you have all the gift hunting which, for adults is misery since adults generally buy what they want themselves. Then there are all the semi-mandatory Christmas events that every single organization whether work, school, church, volunteer organization, or club seems to need to have now. Then for many you have to drag yourself out to whatever location the family Christmas event is.

Of course as mentioned before it's the same exact movies and music we've heard every year for our entire lives since little of that ever changes. I personally just tune as much of it out as I can.

It was much more fun as a kid but it ends up being so much work as an adult. It's not a bad little holiday but I think we just overdo it to the point it stops being as much fun. Why can't we just have our nice holiday meal with our family and have a couple days to relax at home and just have that be it?
 
Our EAA chapter stopped having a Holiday party and moved it to January, making it our Founders Day event. Great idea, and cheaper, too. Our CAP squadron did similar this year....BBQ in mid-january. I stopped going to all the aviation parties years ago....same people all the time. Not spending as much money on meh dinners, too.

The part-time faculty in my dept never get invited to the party at the dept chair’s house...no big deal, but certainly makes it clear what TPTB think of us.

Now if I can just figure out what to get my dog for Hannukah....New bag of cookies for night 1. A new squeaky toy for night 2......

One of Dr Demento’s classics

 
I went to see them perform Handel’s Messiah at Grace Cathedral last week, just for something to do. It was cool, but very long...

Our church choir (from Napa) went to SF to sing in that Messiah one time in the late 1970s. That was an amazing experience. I had forgotten about the tradition of the audience standing for the Hallelujah Chorus until they stood. Just about lost it when they did. I'm glad you got to experience it. Being in the audience is one thing, singing in the choir puts it on a whole different level.
 
It would be nice for those who did not subscribe to the belief behind it to establish their own "Good Cheer Day" with similar yet uniquely their own traditions rather than co-opt a religious holiday. On the other hand, maybe the true spirit of Christmas may eventually be felt.

Ironically there is some scholarly opinion that Christmas was established specifically to co-opt the pagan holiday of Saturnalia, one of the highlights of which was gift giving!
 
But I did figure out the gift thing. This is genius.

I simply told my wife to buy something for herself, but don't let me know what it is. She brought it home yesterday, all smiles. (that is the gift to me). It is under the fake tree (real trees are too stressful) and she will open it on Christmas Eve, as is her families tradition, and I will find out what I got her.

That's brilliant. I feel like I converted my entire family into makeshift seventh-day-adventists by begging and pleading that we ditch the gift-giving entirely since it was all so much unnecessary consumer crap none of us needed or even remembered much after new years. We finally did a few years ago (we get games to play as a group together and now go somewhere interesting together for a week or so instead). Your solution feels warmer, for lack of a better adjective. I may propose it to the group this year.
 
It would be nice for those who did not subscribe to the belief behind it to establish their own "Good Cheer Day" with similar yet uniquely their own traditions rather than co-opt a religious holiday. On the other hand, maybe the true spirit of Christmas may eventually be felt.
At my age 61 I enjoy the Christmas season. I have taken vacation the week of Christmas and Thanksgiving off since I married 18 years ago. It is all work, but everything is work to me. Doing the annual, getting ready for FR, Medical, Honey do lists...

Even doing the things I like fishing, hunting, camping work is involved.

My future daughter in-law is Iranian and just earned US citizenship. She is a hard working girl that embraces our culture as well as hers. I respect her beliefs and she respects mine.

It's sad the rest of the world can not act in such a way.

Merry Christmas, and enjoy the time you have with family and friends..
 
Frohe Weihnachten. @LongRoadBob how do you say it in Norwegian?

God Jul (pronounced “goo” “Yule”)

I’ve actually really nailed down the biggest source of my scroogeness. The Ritual, it’s ok, watching exactly this or that program and cartoon, a Xmas program on the national channel (like I said, like right out of the fifties, how to cook Xmas dinner, and corny as can be) and all that that “must” be done, because I can handle it one day a year, and I can escape it a little.

Its really about all the gimmicky, corny, incessant Xmas music on the radio. You see, my wife gets up before me, and she uses the radio for company. Mostly just noise. Around this time of year it turns all Xmas all the time. So the moment I get up, fuzzy headed as hell, go out to the kitchen for my first cup of coffee, try and get the brain working, I’m inundated. As a musician most of my life, or maybe why I learned guitar, I have a hard time using music as background. Even non Christmas this pop music drives me batty, but this time of year its actually close to torture. Even if I take a drive or walk it’s ear worm qualities means it’s in my head...”let it snow, let it snow, let it snow” with kids all in the chorus, or someone doing a hip hop version of a classic, or..ugh..Maria Carey spilling her lungs out.
If I ask for a break from the radio, my wife would turn it off or use headphones, and then I’d feel bad about that, so there really is now good way out. She likes it. I am going nuts.
 
Where I live, there's hardly any Christmas music on the radio, only the Christian stations, which I don't listen to. I've taken to only listening to Christmas music between (U. S.) Thanksgiving and Christmas because otherwise I find it's really easy for me to forget it's Christmas time with all the other stuff going on in my life. I have a thumb drive that I keep in my car that has 200 Christmas songs on it, and sometimes at work if I'm not doing anything too intense I'll go to Youtube and dial up some Christmas music. That plus the holiday music stations on Sirius is all I listen to for the month.

@LongRoadBob , are you familiar with Loreena McKennit? She did an album of mostly 18th and 19th century traditional Christmas music, "To Drive the Cold Winter Away". It's great for blowing the distractions of the world out of your head and slowing the pace of your thoughts to that of times gone by. Here she is doing the traditional Irish song "The Wexford Carol".


I'm not a fan of Mariah Carey's music and her "All I Want for Christmas Is You" is not on my Christmas playlist. I did find an entirely different song that shares the same title. but predates it by about five years, and I like this one a lot better.


To me this has a nice early 60's rockabilly vibe, something that Brenda Lee might record. The voice you're hearing on the recording is that of Lisa Layne, not the young woman that's in the video. Here she is performing the song live in (where else) Branson:


When I think of "All I Want for Christmas Is You" this is what comes to mind, not Mariah's song
 
Consider for a moment that maybe it is not about you. Life is to be celebrated and shared! How about giving to others not just this time of the year but all year! Support a charity, be ready to smile at and be friendly to all, open a door in short reach beyond yourself...be a pipeline to fill others not just a pitcher to safe up for yourself.

Best wishes to all!
 
God Jul (pronounced “goo” “Yule”)

I’ve actually really nailed down the biggest source of my scroogeness. The Ritual, it’s ok, watching exactly this or that program and cartoon, a Xmas program on the national channel (like I said, like right out of the fifties, how to cook Xmas dinner, and corny as can be) and all that that “must” be done, because I can handle it one day a year, and I can escape it a little.

Its really about all the gimmicky, corny, incessant Xmas music on the radio. You see, my wife gets up before me, and she uses the radio for company. Mostly just noise. Around this time of year it turns all Xmas all the time. So the moment I get up, fuzzy headed as hell, go out to the kitchen for my first cup of coffee, try and get the brain working, I’m inundated. As a musician most of my life, or maybe why I learned guitar, I have a hard time using music as background. Even non Christmas this pop music drives me batty, but this time of year its actually close to torture. Even if I take a drive or walk it’s ear worm qualities means it’s in my head...”let it snow, let it snow, let it snow” with kids all in the chorus, or someone doing a hip hop version of a classic, or..ugh..Maria Carey spilling her lungs out.
If I ask for a break from the radio, my wife would turn it off or use headphones, and then I’d feel bad about that, so there really is now good way out. She likes it. I am going nuts.

Self-serving but well-meaning plug... Check out "Adventures in Jazz Orchestra Celebrates Christmas" .. youtube, spotify, CDbaby, whatever. It's a big band, VERY non-commercial approach to Christmas music, no vocals, no screaming, nothing electric, no midi, no samples, no loops, no studio tricks.. just great musicians playing great heart-felt arrangements ranging from quiet and meditative to joyful and exuberant.. direct to two tracks, no dubs, no splices. My father, Ted, wrote all the charts, directed the band, and plays trombone. I know the pianist really well.. ;) . Some great, well-known jazz players on the CD, too.. Bill Crow on bass, Ed Xiques on alto and tenor sax, Greg Gisby on trumpet, and a host of others. Phenomenal band. If you do check it out and have any comments, I'd love to hear them.

Here's one a cut on the livelier side...


And on the more meaningful side..


I get your angst. If I hear "Last Christmas, I gave you my heart," or "Simply Having A Wonderful Christmas Time" again, I'm not sure I could remain sane. I don't listen to music on the radio anymore, Christmas or otherwise, unless I can find a classical or straight-ahead jazz station.
 
I'm a huge Christmas guy. I do all the fancy cooking and most of the decorating. My wife supervises.
And we celebrate Christmas, three times.
First comes Elfday. All my kids, their spouses, the grand kids, and my siblings (24 people including my wife and I) gather the Saturday before Christmas (usually. Occasionally it's the Saturday after)
Huge feast including roast goose. Each course has it's own beer and wine. Then presents, games. General hilarity, and unseemly jocularity.
When the weather is good, it also involves weapons. Bows, atlatl's throwing knives, throwing axes, blow guns, air rifles, but no actual fire arms.
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Pictures from different years. It was just tooooo cold out there yesterday for anything.

Our 2 youngest kids and spouses stay through Christmas.
Between Elfday and Christmas we try to out do each other by hosting the worst made for TV Christmas movies.
The "Star Wars Christmas Special" is not allowed as it is acknowledged to be the worst in the history of the human race.
I'm pretty sure my son won this year with a preemptive strike, last night, of Season 3 episode 9 of the "Legendary Journeys of Hercules". It's just awful.
I don't think we will be able to top it, but we will try. I found a Hallmark move, made this year, that's a real stinker.

Then we have Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Much more laid back with just the six of us. The reading of the Christmas story from Luke, "A Christmas Carol, and "The Night Before Christmas".
Lots more food. Sea food and church on Christmas Eve (no, there are no Italians in the family) Standing rib and Yorkshire pudding on Christmas Day. Presents, games

Then Twelfth Night on January 5. Mostly friends. Again Feasting, presents, games.
 
I'm a huge Christmas guy. I do all the fancy cooking and most of the decorating. My wife supervises.
And we celebrate Christmas, three times.
First comes Elfday. All my kids, their spouses, the grand kids, and my siblings (24 people including my wife and I) gather the Saturday before Christmas (usually. Occasionally it's the Saturday after)
Huge feast including roast goose. Each course has it's own beer and wine. Then presents, games. General hilarity, and unseemly jocularity.
When the weather is good, it also involves weapons. Bows, atlatl's throwing knives, throwing axes, blow guns, air rifles, but no actual fire arms.
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Pictures from different years. It was just tooooo cold out there yesterday for anything.

Our 2 youngest kids and spouses stay through Christmas.
Between Elfday and Christmas we try to out do each other by hosting the worst made for TV Christmas movies.
The "Star Wars Christmas Special" is not allowed as it is acknowledged to be the worst in the history of the human race.
I'm pretty sure my son won this year with a preemptive strike, last night, of Season 3 episode 9 of the "Legendary Journeys of Hercules". It's just awful.
I don't think we will be able to top it, but we will try. I found a Hallmark move, made this year, that's a real stinker.

Then we have Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Much more laid back with just the six of us. The reading of the Christmas story from Luke, "A Christmas Carol, and "The Night Before Christmas".
Lots more food. Sea food and church on Christmas Eve (no, there are no Italians in the family) Standing rib and Yorkshire pudding on Christmas Day. Presents, games

Then Twelfth Night on January 5. Mostly friends. Again Feasting, presents, games.

Just loaded the car... We're on our way. Should be arriving in about 3 and a half hours.. :) Sounds amazing. You are, indeed, a good Shepherd ... hehehe
 
If your experience of Christmas is limited to carols on the radio and crowds in the stores, I can understand the weariness. It's helpful to get outside of yourself a bit. Every year my family kicks off the season by spending the week after Thanksgiving volunteering with Samaritan's Purse along with friends from church. It's a great way to set the right mental state. Carols don't seem so stale and Christmas movies are enjoyable (though I am sick to death of "It's A Wonderful Life").

It's been a few years since I sung in a choir at Christmas, and I miss it. I play guitar, too, and in the past I've enjoyed playing Christmas music in our church band. My job is requiring me to travel a lot, though, which makes it impossible to attend rehearsals so I've set that aside for a while. I'll be glad to get back to it.

I enjoy the traditions and nostalgia, too. This is my son's first Christmas in his own apartment, so last weekend my wife and I drove up to Georgia to visit him and help him decorate. We took him a tree, wreath, and a bunch of decorations. Among all that was a box of old Christmas tree ornaments than my mom gave me when I moved out, and they were given her from her mom on her first Christmas on her own. So he has some baubles hung on his tree that came from his great-grandmother, and someday he'll pass them onto his kids.
 
On the other hand, there was once a Christmas.....

Many years ago, when I was in my 20s and just out of college, I was at my uncle's house on Christmas Eve. We had a large family dinner, and afterward we were all gathered in the living room. My cousins' kids (my uncle's grandkids), maybe 4 or 5 years old, were there with us. My uncle slipped into the next room when they weren't looking and jingled a string of bells loudly.

He came into the room asking, "What was that? What was that noise?" Then he stepped out and did it again. This time the little kids began shouting "It's Santa Claus! It's Santa Claus and the reindeer!"

"Santa Claus!" my uncle shouted. "I'll get him!" He then grabbed a shotgun out of the wall rack and headed out the door. A moment later he set off a couple of firecrackers, then came back in the door with his arms full of toys yelling, "I got him! I got him!" while giving the kids their presents.

The poor kids didn't know whether to be delighted with their new toys, or to cry because grandpa had shot Santa. That was about 35 years ago and they haven't been normal since. I think one of them is still in therapy...
 
I will admit to not feeling particularly Christmasy this year. Fortunately my wife will be home for Christmas (coming home on Christmas Eve, as a matter of fact), something that we've been surprisingly fortunate with given her job over the past few years. But I feel like the kids have transitioned from the period of the magic of Christmas and the excitement of "Santa came!" to the phase of "I WANT!" We keep Christmas presents to a fairly low amount and try to focus on and instill in them giving, but at their ages, it'll be a while before they get it. Taking them shopping for presents for their mom today was proof of that. Putting up the tree is something I want to look forward to, but the kids are in a race to put up as many ornaments as fast as possible. Lots of these ornaments have stories that I try to tell, but no interest since that gets in the way of putting them on the tree faster. It was different when I was a kid, being an only child of a single mom, so it was just us decorating the tree and it was much... calmer. There are studies that say 3 kids is the hardest number and having them close together and twins can't make it easier. Come Christmas morning if we manage to make it past 8 AM before all the presents are opened, we'll be doing pretty well. Again, it was different when I was a kid, but I was the youngest by a long shot so I was well outnumbered by patient adults who kept Christmas morning on their schedule (something I hated as a child but wish I could be more successful at as an adult).

I enjoyed Christmas as a kid, but in retrospect they aren't really good memories for a lot of reasons. My mom won't be joining us (her choice, but she's complaining about being "orphaned" for Christmas anyway).

Christmas in Kansas is not super cold and almost never snowy, at least thus far, so it doesn't feel like Christmas for a guy who grew up in New York and spent Christmas growing up in the mountains in Virginia. The forecast says a high of 63 for Christmas day. But we'll watch a Charlie Brown Christmas a few times, which I enjoy and the kids like, too.

So yeah, I'm not feeling very Christmasy either. At least when we go to Cabo after Christmas there should be margaritas and Dos Equis. Hopefully that's fun, but with how the kids have been lately I fear it'll just be spending money to yell at them with the sound of waves crashing up against the beach instead of the sound of the freight train coming through. I keep telling myself that things that make good memories are not always fun while you're doing them... especially with kids.
 
Equal time. This has even gotten a writeup in the Jerusalem Post!

 
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I’ve seen A Charlie Brown Christmas so many times, I am frankly sick of it. I actually find it kind of depressing.
 
is not super cold and almost never snowy,

Try Texas. And I grew up in Washington State, with enough snow to know I don’t mind visiting snow, but don’t want to live with it. But I still miss the idea of snow as part of the set up to the holiday season.
 
Consider for a moment that maybe it is not about you. Life is to be celebrated and shared! How about giving to others not just this time of the year but all year! Support a charity, be ready to smile at and be friendly to all, open a door in short reach beyond yourself...be a pipeline to fill others not just a pitcher to safe up for yourself.

Best wishes to all!

what I wrote was about me, yes. About how I experience it. If you actually read what I write, I’m not being selfish and ruining anything. But the constant gimmicky, slick, bad songs that are on the radio all the time now, for me as a musician that loves music, get to me.
I also wrote that I don’t ask my wife to turn it off, because I don’t want to ruin it for her. But it really is tough day after day to wake up and hear the schlock from morning til evening.

I do all for the grandchildren, dress up as Santa on Xmas eve, sneak out of the house, and come around the side ringing a bell, even though the kids all know it is me now.

You don’t know anything about me, and actually make my point. To me Xmas is a feeling, the good feeling, but also maybe it is more here than in the US (and I’m American, so I grew up with the US traditions) though not so different, there is a lot more ritualistic things going on. I am not going to toot my own horn, but I do give, help others, try to be a positive force. It’s the music...there are a few perfect Xmas songs to me, but the big production, commercial songs (and it truly is a goal of a lot of pop folk to get on the rotation not because of good cheer to fellow man but because of the benjamins) to me go completely against the actual spirit.

That isn’t religious, that’s just actual joy and good will to fellow man cannot be forced but media here does just that.
 
Christmas is enormously boring for us heathens. Might actually get to fly on Christmas this year. A first.
 
Christmas is enormously boring for us heathens. Might actually get to fly on Christmas this year. A first.

Every year, my wife and I go for a Christmas Eve flight and look at the lights. So far, the weather has cooperated every year since I got my license. It's the only time I can get her in a plane just for fun. She'll get in to travel, but not just to "fly", not even for sunsets anymore. It's also about the only thing we're doing that's traditional this year. We're doing the keto thing, so not even any good food. :(
 
This is a difficult time for many of us. In a few minutes I am leaving for another round of chemo therapy which will continue for the rest of my life unless there is divine intervention or a yet to be discovered cure for this type of cancer.

My hope and wish is that all of us take the time to be thankful for those who support us and add value to our lives. Also, that we show that by thought, word, and deed. It is easy to get angry and pull into ourselves but please don't. And we need to do this all year.
 
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