The thing you are doing really well, is asking questions.
Are you doing the same with your instructor?
From the instructors point of view. Lesson #1 is usually just information overload for the student, everything is new. So just getting you in the plane and moving controls, you are learning a lot. We can start refining specific details in further lessons. We are also evaluating how well you do, if you doing well why change it. I tell my students (usually in later lessons) If I am quiet you are either doing great or I am waiting to see if you will notice and correct something you should recognize and know how to do.
The thing we want to instill in you from lesson #1 is the that YOU will be the pilot in command. This goes beyond just flying the airplane. It also applies to your training. If you are concerned start asking questions.
If you don't know what is going to happen next, ask.
Sounds like she isn't using a syllabus, at least that she has shared with you yet.... Ask if she has one she likes.
Some people really want structured learning and know what is coming next. Others prefer to have the instructor evaluate where they are at and the conditions and work on what makes sense for todays lesson.
If she isn't using a syllabus use one of your own, Gleim makes a good, inexpensive one. Follow along on your own, Have you covered the topics in the lessons it presents? Have you covered topics not in the current plan, but perhaps in a more advanced lesson. Check them off and document in the syllabus what you have and haven't done. Ask questions about what you haven't done?
The Syllabus will also give you a timeline and ground topics to study, that will start prepping you for your written test and Practical test from Lesson #1 if you keep up studying the topics in the syllabus. note 1/2 the lessons are ground lessons/study.
Get a copy of the manual for the airplane, Read it.
Can you meet, talk, or study with some of her other students?
Did you get the theme, Ask Questions?, Read, Study, Take charge of making sure you training is progressing and you are learning. Even if most of that is when you get home.
Some will say get another instructor, if this instructor isn't working out for you that is good advice. But so far I haven't seen anything that makes me think another instructor would be any better or worse for you.
If you do have an opportunity to fly with another instructor do so. One sign of having a good instructor is they won't mind and will probably recommend someone for you to fly with if you want to.
Brian
CFIIG/ASEL